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Please help with 13 yr old!!

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Hayz1505 · 18/03/2019 11:18

Hi, I am really struggling with my 13 yr old DS. Since he has started secondary school his behaviour has become uncontrollable, so much so, that he has just been excluded for 3 days for being in a party of boys who decided to shout at teachers and graffiti the wall. Now I’m not saying my son is an angel, and he has had all privileges taken away but now the school are constantly telling me that he is horrid (I know I get the brunt of it at home!) and that ‘other. Services’ need to be involved. I work full time and have other children, including a 14 DD who has no problems in school what’s so ever. I have tried to talk to my. my son to find out what, if anything, is wrong but he just tells me to go away and leave him alone. I have asked the school to help have him assessed for any SEN needs as he said he is struggling and they are being very slack on that part, but I am persistent with it and they have assured me they will. I just feel like I’m failing so bad at being a parent that I cannot stop crying. DH isn’t being much support and the school keep using the words “there is something wrong with him”. They keep shouting at me for answers but I don’t know what else I can do, please any advice is appreciated, is this normal for a teenage boy or is something really wrong????

Thank you- a very stressed mum!

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RollingRivers · 18/03/2019 18:35

Honestly , if you want to assess him for SEN , I’d go private or get him assessed by cahms myself ( self referral or by doctors). Nieces school did absolutely nothing during her diagnosis and so my siste ended up going private and it helped as she got diagnosed and things were put in place to help her. Peer pressure possibly? School shouldn’t be telling you ‘there’s something wrong with him’ and if you are it’s definitely a clue to get him assessed ASAP. No devices , ground him , no outside activities should help him not do things like this again but if he does there may be something worth . Don’t worry , your not a bad parent and your not alone

Hayz1505 · 18/03/2019 19:29

Thank you, I think that I may just go Private, especially if they continue to drag their heels again.

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RollingRivers · 18/03/2019 19:56

It will be worth it , trust me . What type of symptoms does he display , I may be able to be of some assistance as I know a bit about some SEN and have definitely learnt lots from mumsnet users

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