Redecorating room for 12 yo

[StackedTeacups]

Just wondering whether this is a reasonable request....my nearly-12yo had her room decorated when she was 9 after some renovation work ruined her room. She’s changed quite a lot in the intervening years and feels her room is ‘too girly’ and wants something more in keeping with her current tastes (think Emo). I get that she’s shedding her childhood self and moving to the next phase, but am I being over-indulgent to decorate again so soon?

It could be a 12th birthday present? i would insist on a neutral colour for the walls (grey, very pale blue) so that if she changes her mind again then it will be a case of taking down posters, changing bedding as opposed to repainting. I do understand her point, most girls taste changes a lot from 9 to 12 however I would definitely count it as one of her birthday presents.

all the best x

I don't think you'd be overly indulgent to redecorate after three years, but I wouldn't bin all the bedding. I'd be inclined to have one new set if her friends were due to visit (and the pink unicorns when they weren't...)

I think this is absolutely reasonable if it's on a modest budget. You don't have to redo the whole thing, but perhaps just refresh it a bit.

As long as you can afford it, I don't think you're being over-indulgent, but I agree with sleepy that you should insist on stuff that isn't likely to date really quickly. And if you have other children you should obviously be prepared to do the same for them (though not necessarily at the same time if they are currently happy with what they have).

It's a nice thing to do as she is growing out of more babyish tastes.
I did this for mine when they were around 12/13. Ditched the dragons/dinosaurs themes and went for plain colours but with one wall in a bold colour and plain carpets and curtains. At the same time we bought a desk for the room.
This decor lasted pretty well and I have just redone DS1's room as he has left home to work away at 22.

It's her room and as long as you can afford it not over-indulgent at all.

I disagree about keeping the existing bedding for when she doesn't have friends round.

This is her space, why can't she have it how she wants it? I would draw the line at painting walls black

We chose neutral furniture for the boy's bedrooms meaning we can paint the walls and change the look in the space of a weekend. Both of mine had new room decor for the summer before they started secondary.