I found a pregnancy test in my 14 yo Daughters room

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someone please give me some advice.....I found used and negative pregnancy test in my daughter's room. when I asked her about it she said it was not hers a friend had asked her to get rid of it. thing is she normally so trustworthy and out of character for her she doesn't have a boyfriend that I am aware of. I have spoken with her about contraception etc. she is adamant it is not hers, I'm just so frightened that if I nothing the unthinkable happens. I am considering taking her to the GP for contraceptives for my peace of mind but we have such a good relationship and I am so frightened of that breaking down if I force the issue

She has explained her reasoning

DD is purchased pregnancy tests for friends a few have done the test here

She was helping her friend

Did her friend use them in your house?

If not, I’d not believe your DD tbh, it seems unlikely and pretty silly to bring them home with her rather than throw them away elsewhere.

I would take her at her word. Have a chat and say you hope her friend is using some reliable contraceptives now she has had a scare. I think taking her to the GP for contraceptives is unnecessary. But you could make her aware that it's an option if she wants it. Also make her aware she can go to the GP without you now if she wants to.

Maybe her period was late and she just wanted actual proof that she wasn't pregnant even though physically she couldn't be.
I did this when I was 18 and I was 2 weeks late (practically unheard of for me even as a young teen). Anyway, turns out it was just my sertraline causing it.

Do you think she’s had opportunity to have sex? I have a 14 year old girl and I can look at her life and see which bits are structured and which bits have enough unsupervised space for it to happen.

I think you have to take her at her word - maybe reinforce the safe sex message and you are always there to help and not judge if she was in the same position as her friend.

I think she could easily be telling you porkies here. She's hardly going to admit it, even if you were calm and supportive etc. Why would a friend give it to her to keep? The friend could've just binned it herself, not necessarily in a home bin!

If you force the issue of contraceptives it will be like you are encouraging her to have sex! You just need to keep an open dialogue and tell her you are proud of her for helping out a friend in need