Tonight, dh is out. Ds is going to cubs. Dd wants to come with me so we can visit shop on the way back. I tell her eleven million x that I don't want to, the car park is too crowded, I don't want to spend any money and, for once, I just want to drop ds and go straight home. Ds refuses to go which is a normal occurence and frustrating but relents when the leader tells him to .
Dd pushes and pushes about the shop with me saying no ad infinitum. In the end, I explode and tell her she never listens and she has to take no for an answer. She says it's my fault. I am a crap parent because I am too soft. When I was a kid, I respected my parents saying no over things like this. I tell her it wouldn't have occurred to me to have pushed and pushed to get my way because you don't take advantage of people's good nature.
She has stomped upstairs with me yelling after her that, whatever she does, it's my fault. If she stabbed me, i suppose it would be mine, too, for letting her