My almost 15yo daughter has developed a friendship with a soon to be 17yo boy at her school. We are a year away from GCSE's and the boy is in his first year of A' Levels.
He is a delightful boy, matire, polite and very well spoken. He has spent several afternoons at our house at the weekends and is great company. The friendship is quite clearly becoming something more and both think the world of each other. They talk for an hour every night. Both are very kind, thoughtful, caring and sensible characters, the boy being very academic whereas my daughter is more creative and although very emotional mature, she struggles with academic confidence. She is doing very well at school but not in the top, top classes for English and Maths - but still capable of a very decent GCSE pass.
My daughter has told me that the boy's mum thinks my dd is a distraction to his studies (he works very hard both at home and school). Also, and this is the bit that has upset me .. my daughter is not academic enough for him !! My dd has not let it upset her too much, mainly because the boy stood his ground and told his mum how much he thinks of my dd. She is a wonderfully kind, bright, funny and loyal girl. These qualities are surely more important than an exceptional academic qualifications ? I get that the mum doesn't want her son to be distracted but he's very mature and keen to do well so I really don't think this will happen - my dd has her own committments and is certainly not stupid. I think the mum should give her son some credit and my dd a chance to prove she's not some waste of space that is going to demand his time and ruin his prospects. In actual fact, the mum knows nothing about my dd or our family .. I think she'd be very surprised. She is a nice lady, but his siblings are very successful and driven and she obviously wants the same for her youngest son.
They are so young, it's a 'First Love' situation but neither are silly. I am sure when she gets to know my dd better, she'll realise what a nice girl her son has found. If dd was dragging him out to hang about the streets in the evening, showing her t**ts & tummy on social media, drinking .. or worse , then the mum might have a point.
It's really quite upset me that another parent could judge so easily :-(
Would you be upset too ?