I am sick of my teen

[thistimeofyear]

Just that really... I don't want to parent anymore... sick of asking them to pick up stuff....put stuff away....every bloody day.... every hour of every bloody day...... sick of being ignored because they are on their phone..... always on their phone....never doing homework......going on and on about being too fat when they are not.... constantly reassuring them.....wanting to scream and run away....I am a crap parent anyway.....I have no patience.....I get bloody angry and then say mean things when I have reached the end of my rope....

Mentally detach a bit

Screaming and saying mean things is worse for you than for them!

Go out and leave them to it every now and then

I only mini-rant once a day max about tidiness/homework.

Easier said than done maybe

So am I. My normally ebullient and lovely 16 year old said to me this evening that she desperately wanted me to leave her room or she'd want to kick me in the face. She regretted it immediately and was all lovely after, but...... MEH!

I'm so over 16 year old girls.

We're having to detach a lot too. DS simply will not study. We ask him to do, say he can have the Xbox when he's finished but I'm not convinced he does more than the least he can get away with.

The same with their rooms. I'll ask them to change their sheets, which they'll do eventually and ask them to bring down dishes and dirty clothes but they don't do an awful lot more.

thanks everyone - at least we are not alone!
doesn't help that she just goes to her dad s house and he will give her money all the time!

THIS is what MN is about. Support and being honest. We live in an Instagram, only showing the good stuff, age.

My contribution is that teenagers can be really horrible and exhausting, but they will come out the other side, you will recognise them, later, down the road. It does get better. 💐💐💐

My daughter is a total diva atm she’s just turned 14 & I am the worst mother ever. Of course this is encouraged by my mother who thinks all teens should be out partying & doing whatever they like 🤬

Black bin bags can be very useful!

This stage does pass and they emerge lovely. So pick your battles. Everyone won't agree with me but l wouldn't waste my energy on the tidy rooms. No food upstairs. Then close the doors. We had a cleaning time for the whole family every Sat morning but at others times l didn't bother getting in to it.
Try and keep the relationship going as much as possible. Grab peaceful moments that ye can chat a bit. Look after yourself healthwise and after that just batten down the hatches and wait for the storm to pass.
In the last few weeks l had reason to see another side of my post teen kids and the amount of support they gave me and their mature reaction bore no resemblance to those 16 year olds of a few years ago.
Stick in there.