My 15 year old granddaughter is living with us at the moment, not due to any issues at home, just down to convenience at the moment due to her parents work hours. My partner is her step grandad.
My partner sometimes tells me 'she needs to empty her bin, tidy her room, fold her washing etc. Not often, he's not getting on at her but I just wonder why he is going into her room when she isn't there. I don't think he should. There is no need to other than looking for things he can complain about. He doesn't tidy up or put washing away etc so there is no need for him to go in there. Am I right thinking he should give her some privacy? I just wanted to know what others think before i tell him to keep out of her room because it will probably turn into a row. She is a very good kid, untidy and moody like any 15 year old but she comes home when she's told and doesn't get into trouble, does well at school etc. I sometimes wonder if he is snooping to find a problem where there isn't one. I don't want to offend him if I am the one who is wrong but I feel uncomfortable with him treating her like a child rather than the young woman she is. I'd like to hear some opinions plz.