‘Rules’ for 18 yr old

[Jungfraujoch]

Just curious how it works in your house? DS will tell me now he’s 18 he can do what he likes (or not).

I realise that but still expect respect while living with me. Just simple things like where’s he going, rough idea when he’ll be back etc - or should I not ask?!

[Weenurse]

Generally I like to know who is his me for dinner.
If they are going away, or staying elsewhere for the night.
General conversation about how we are all adults and need to be respectful of each other.
Everyone does own washing, we all take turns to cook and clean up, feed dog etc.
It works well

[Weenurse]

Home for dinner

[Pinkprincess1978]

@corythatwas - this is exactly my my thoughts.

I had a flat mate (very briefly) at uni who left one afternoon to go shopping with her boyfriend, said she would see me later. 3 days later (I was worried but this was pre-mobile phone and I had no contact details for her mum so little I could do and I thought ringing the police was over kill) her mum rang up for her. I said I hadn't seen her since Saturday lunch time when she said she was popping out shopping. Her mum completely understood my worry and apparently tracked her down and told her off or being so inconsiderate to me. She came home the next day and wasn't happy. That was just the start of her becoming the flat mate from hell though.

[BackinTimeforBeer]

I was out till past 3am when I was 16 - we used to go clubbing! I tend to think that you just let people know whether you want dinner or not and where you're off to but I can see why dcs start getting secretive if parents are constantly quizzing them. Dh's mother still asks us to be home by 12midnight because she'd worry - she is quite frankly ridiculous, imposing rules like this on adults but dh's family have pandered to this nonsense for years - at my parents they just go to bed and we get home whenever the party stops!