Sleepovers

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Just having an argument with DD14 about sleepovers. I try to restrict sleepovers to half terms and holidays and if it’s something like a birthday party/ sleepover thing. This is because the sleepovers generally seem to take over half the weekend. There is very little sleep and consequently very little time for homework or family time. DH and I work FT so also need to have some downtime at weekends. DD feels I am being too strict and apparently everyone else has sleepovers all the time. I am not trying to stop her seeing friends, she has a really good social life and regularly sees friends outside school.

What is the consensus on sleepovers? Am I being unfair here?

TIA

I get you want family time but at the age of 14 she wants to be with her friends. Can't her friend stay in her bedroom? That's not going to disrupt you. If she's tired then so be it, can't she just chill out in her room the next day? Perhaps a Friday night rather than a Saturday.

Does she go to her friends a lot for sleepovers? If so, then I think you do have to reciprocate every so often.

I know what you mean, it’s not great having a load of teens all over the house on a weekend. I make it as simple as poss. I will not be feeding anyone, I will be going about my day as normal whether they’re awake or not (this usually gets them shifted fairly easily as they sleep in the living room). And they’re welcome to breakfast but my son the host knows where the kitchen is for that, not for me to be producing mounds of toast and bacon butties!

DS has been to 2 this half term so I’m fully expecting to be asked for this weekend. There’s never any more than 4 in total. I’d say we get away with 1-2 at ours per half term. I’m lucky in that they’re a lovely group of lads and no bother at all.

Yes she does go to friends for sleepovers and we do reciprocate. We had 2 sleepovers in half term and also went to a friends house one night but she wants another friend to stay this weekend. It’s not that they are not too much bother, although they do tend to lay around until lunchtime and want a cooked breakfast while I am doing Sunday lunch My main issue is DD does minimal homework and has Y10 mocks looming. When she has sleepovers she is tired and even more grumpy than usual so schoolwork suffers.