So almost 15 year old has had a difficult year - struggling with gender identity and general mental health issues.
After some therapy (him and us) and a lot of work we are in a better place in terms of communication and managing the challenging behaviour. BUT he has no interest in family activities unless they involve him (no siblings) and me or DH taking him to a band he wants to see usually bloody miles away and very expensive.
He is refusing to come on holiday with us this summer. I have pointed out that its not really fair on the rest of us to go without a holiday and he's too young to be left home alone. His reply is that he's just not coming simple as that.
Quite aside from how upsetting it is that the idea of a week in the company of his family is so terrible, plus the fact we are staying in the UK to avoid the difficulty of his passport being in the wrong name / gender and also going to great expense to make sure he has a separate bedroom - I don't know what to do.
If we drag him he might have a reasonable time or he might work hard to be miserable and that won't be fun for any of us.
My mum has offered to have him but a week is a big ask as he's not that easy and they aren't particularly close.
I know he can't be the only one to not come on family holidays but what do people do??