Bloody Instagram hauls and being greedy, is it a binge mentality?

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I took the dds to the shops to get them new school shoes and popped into H&M to get a work shirt. While I was fucking about getting the right size dd1 13 asks if she can look around. I say yeh off she goes and next thing I know she's got an armful if stuff, I say no, she then says can I try these on, 3 items. I go ok. After she's tried them on I say you can have 1 item. She throws a massive strop and sulk. So I dump the stuff and say that's it home.

Needless to say, school shoes weren't bought. I was fuming at her bloody greediness. She's still having a moody sulky strop about it.

It's like she just went in there and started binging, couldn't stop herself grabbing things off the rails and just wanted everything. I dunno where this comes from. She doesn't see me behaving like that. She says she doesn't watch hauls but FFS I was pissed off.

Utterly normal teenager by the sound of it

Yip sounds normal to me, dd would pick up 20 items and usually leave with 1 item if any!

Does she have money to buy any of the items herself?

Normal teenage behaviour

That sounds totally normal. Do you only pick up one thing in a shop? I always pick up a few and then try them on, and I'll get my fave. So having a huff because you said she could only have 1 is not reasonable of your daughter but is typical teenager behaviour. But going into a shop and picking up multiple things to try seems like normal behaviour for anyone

3 items is not a haul is it. Be serious now. She was hardly binging and grabbi stuff off the rails if she tried on 3 things. 😂😕
you offered to pay for one item could she have bought the other 2 with her own money or pocket money? Does she have her own debit card? If my kids wanted 3 items and I was happy to pay for 1 I'd let them buy the other 2 with their own money. They are 11 and have their own bank accounts, debit cards etc. This is how kids learn to budget and manage their own finances.
This could have been a lovely shopping trip but you had a strop and accused her of being greedy and it turned sour. Don't sweat the small stuff! Help your dd to be financially responsible. I usually discuss before we go shopping eg we are buying s hool shoes only today and anything else you want comes from your own money or whatever.
Try to be a bit more reasonable.

I think you are being unfair. She wanted some new clothes. Maybe new clothes make her feel good about herself. Then you come along and shame her by calling her greedy. Seems an OTT reaction.

Teenagers generally have no concept of money until they have to earn it themselves.

You sound a bit ott. This is just normal teen behaviour, 3 things is hardly a haul!

Isn't that totally normal teenage behaviour?!

You've massively overreacted here and you're going to go back anyway to get the school shoes!

At 13 they are trying to work out what they like and at this age DD would try on loads of items and not buy a single one.
If we were clothes shopping for her at 13 I would set her a budget of what she could spend and then let her try on as much or as little as she liked.
Now at 15 she has an allowance and has to sort her own clothes and ensure she has sanitary items and shampoo.