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Fight at school

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mcmen71 · 08/02/2019 23:06

My dd was grabbed punched and kicked on ground at school yesterday age 15
The school rang mecto say there was an incident at school and to come and collect my dd and get her checked . My dd was badly shaken but otherwise ok.
Later that evening it was posted on social media a video off what happened which was quite violent .
The girl who assaulted my dd got one day suspension and school told me they couldnt speak to me until Monday. I am very annoyed and stressed and principal just emailed me back and said stay calm and I will see you ob Monday.
It is a school rule that videoing and posting online is a criminal offence.
Advice please.

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Oakmaiden · 08/02/2019 23:07

Copy the video and go to the police?

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mcmen71 · 08/02/2019 23:10

I have the video on my phone but afraid if go to police she will come after my dd again

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Cheetahssitonfajitas · 08/02/2019 23:11

I'd likely go to the police and let the school know that fine, you'll talk on Monday but head's up that the police may want to speak to them first as you're not happy to wait that long and are off to report it now. Though I'm guessing the girl who committed the assault is not the one who filmed and posted online.

Cheetahssitonfajitas · 08/02/2019 23:12

Which is why the school needs to explain exactly how they intend to prevent that.

Greensleeves · 08/02/2019 23:12

What does your dd want you to do?

Colette · 08/02/2019 23:12

Contact the social media site and ask to have it removed. It's hideous, one day suspension is not enough.Hope your dd is ok.

Ribbonsonabox · 08/02/2019 23:14

Go to the police. She is less likely to come after your dad again if you go to the police not more... as it will be recorded with them and will seriously escalate if she keeps up the violence. I would take it out of the schools hand as they are clearly not dealing with it. It is a criminal matter.

Totorosfluffytummy · 08/02/2019 23:15

School will not want police involved. Police don't like to get involved with anything happening at school either.
If it was my DD though, I would still report it to police.

Ribbonsonabox · 08/02/2019 23:15

*dd not dad!

zod1ac19 · 08/02/2019 23:16

As well as copying the video do screenshot who posted it and any comments.

I would find out a bit more about it and consider the police depending on the circumstances.

If it is a first time it would likely end in a caution or othwr out of court disposal but once youth offending get involved then the person who did it will be on their radar if they aren’t already.

Good luck.

Greensleeves · 08/02/2019 23:18

Agree school will be hoping you don't get the police involved, hence the "stay calm" comment from the Head (which I wouldn't be particularly happy with).

It's your call, not theirs. It certainly is a criminal matter. But for me, it would depend on how serious the assault was, what my dc felt about it and how seriously I felt the Head was taking it.

zod1ac19 · 11/02/2019 19:45

How did today go OP?

GreenTulips · 11/02/2019 19:50

Did you report it?

Locally anything like this posted online has had serious backlash for the perpetrator with messages of support for the victim.

Police have had to become involved and the teens punished by law

SnuggyBuggy · 11/02/2019 20:10

It I'd go to the police if it were me. Fuck what the school want.

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mcmen71 · 11/02/2019 20:15

When their minors police dont want to know Principal said go to the police if thats what you want when i asked about cctv and she said no i said if i go ask police will you show me then .

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Oakmaiden · 11/02/2019 21:48

When their minors police dont want to know
That's not true. I recently had police come round and take a statement from me because I witnessed two girls scuffling on their way into school, and I reported it to the police because it had looked unnecessarily violent (and one sided - one girl being set upon by another, rather than two girls having a row).

It may well be that nothing much happened on in the end, but the police were very much following it up.

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mcmen71 · 24/02/2019 00:07

The other girl will be back at school next week i am dreading it my daughter is ok for now

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mcmen71 · 25/02/2019 14:24

The girl is back at school still in same classes I am so annoyed with school for not making some changes and they haven't even let me know anything

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