No kids at a wedding... What age do they stop being kids?

[ssd]

Just that really, what age would they start to be invited to weddings that say no kids invited?

Surely if they're invited they'd be mentioned on the invitation?
So If ssd and partner are invited then that's it.
If they wanted adult children it'd be ssd, partner and adultchild

I think I've understood your question.

It's up to the invitees and why they are doing 'no kids' e.g. cost or screaming.

Yes stealth is right, unless they are named on the invitation they are not invited whatever their age surely??

When they get sent their own invitations?
Depends on the child/young adult to some degree. If you say no kids because you don't want littles running around, that stops by the time they are 8 or 9 maybe but can't stay up too late.
From 11 or 12 they're unlikely to be much trouble and by 13/14 they are pretty mature.

Ok so they aren't invited, thanks for clearing that up

They are 18 and 21 and we live 500 miles away, I assumed we were all invited as we are immedate family, but think I was wrong.

I am not an etiquette expert! Don't take my word for it.

It's one of those I hate to ask as I don't want to put pressure on the bride and groom

I agree they’d be named if they were invited.

18 and 2 defiantly aren't kids. You are immediate family though and they weren't invited? That's pretty rude in my opinion.

18 and 21**

It feels like that Jake, I don't want to jump the gun and take offence, but don't really know how to approach it

It could also be that they mean 'no next generation'.

e.g. Suppose you are 40 and getting married. You invite your cousins, but not their multitude of children that you don't really know and don't have the numbers for.

At that age I would expect them to get their own invitations. What is the relationship between you and the bride/groom?

Did the invite just say yours and DPs name? Or your family name?

Like 'Dear Lily and James' or 'Dear Smith family'?

What does the invite say?

If they're not named I would assume they are not invited.

What relation are the children to bride or groom? I'd be offended too I think

At 18 and 21 they are not children. They are adults. If they have not received and invitation, they are not invited. Unless your invite is a family invite, which would be inclusive.

Just say thanks for the invite...
Presume it is just me and hubby,. Not the whole family
Look forward too seeing you..

We've just sent ours out and only invited the very close children that we spend a lot of time with who are named in the invite.

If we went any further we'd be unable to afford the day unfortunately! Some of those invited are younger teens.

The invite says only my and dhs names

Anyway many thanks everyone

Why on earth would people expect the dcs to get a separate invite to us, they are students and live at home, they are 17 and 20 just now

The invite says only my and dhs names

So why would it even cross your mind that children would be invited? It's clear if it says "To Barbie and Ken" not "Barbie, Ken and family".

If no kids= under 18
Anyone over 18 invited if they are named on an invite,