My DH'd grandfather died a couple of weeks ago, he lived on the IOM so we had to book flights etc to go to funeral (which would be tomorrow). We asked DD19 if she wanted to come, he was her step Granddad,so we gave her the choice on whether she wanted to come, she was adamant she wanted to come, so it was all booked, time off school, work and college sorted.
We drove up to Liverpool this morning (3 hour drive). We got to the airport and DD tells us she doesn't want to come, we said that she could get a train home if she wanted, she then changed her mind and said she was fine to come.
We get to boarding and we get to go to the front as DH is an anxious flyer. DD refuses to go to the front as "its embarrassing". Finally manage to get her to come to the front,( I walk in front of her ), at this point she punches me in the back and calls me a f*ing b**ch.
Airport security then get involved and eventually we get barred from the flight due to DD being a flight risk and we get escorted from the airport by security and police. There are no other flights to IOM today and the ones tomorrow are too late in the day to get there for the funeral so we drove home again.
I am angry, upset and ashamed of how she behaved today and shes just run off to her boyfriends for the rest of the week so she avoids any conflict.
I just don't know what to do anymore...shes already on anti-depressants and we tiptoe round her all the time as if she gets upset she threatens to harm herself (we've tried to get her to go to counselling but she point blank refuses).
She is 20 in 2 weeks and I know I need to just step back and let her get on with her life but its very difficult when shes still under our roof.
I don't even know what I hope to achieve from writing this!