Is this a bit off?

[Room101isWhereIUsedtoLive]

Asking for a friend. Over Christmas her ds was with his dad. He is 13. Anyway the day after boxing day her ds got up at three in the morning and made himself some leftovers.
When his dad discovered this the following day, he grounded her ds and removed all electronics etc.
She thinks this is totally ott but often doubts herself and she has a hard time trying to get her ex to be reasonable, so on this note, does anyone here think this is a bit off? Or just normal parenting that most people think is totally resonable and understandable?

Assuming they are not short of money for food think this is unreasonable. Teenage boys often raid fridges don't they?
Maybe they need to feed him more in the daytime

I don't know. Other than breakfast in the mornings, our teens don't eat without checking first, it's just polite, isn't it? Usually they just want a few pieces of toast or a banana or bowl of cereal, so we always say yes to snacks unless we're about to eat a full meal. That said, ours love their sleep so much that I don't think they would get up in the middle of the night to eat leftovers (they never want leftovers!), but sometimes they do get up a bit earlier in the morning to make themselves a half a loaf of toast bigger breakfast.

I hardly think it's a punishable offence, though! The dad should just have a conversation with his son about household expectations. Simple.

Teenage boys have appetites like wild dogs. I remember the years when I'd be woken up at 2am by the smell of cooking and find a bunch of young people in the kitchen merrily frying everything in the fridge.

Sounds like a controlling non-resident parent with anger issues. Teenagers need hugs (and snacks).

If it really is as simple as 'hungry child ate leftovers', then of course it was a huge overreaction.

I wonder if the kid was actually up playing video games into the wee small hours, which would explain the banning of the electronics. It's unusual to be so hungry your body would wake you up to eat isn't it?

Did he eat a load of food that the ex was intending for the next day’s lunch?

No to food being used for anything else. The electronics in the dads room have been a long term thing. When he is there, he is only allowed them on certain days/times and outside of those times the electronics are in the ex's room, unless friend's ds is using it to Skype with her.

Bloody hell it sounds like a military nightmare!
With him been 13 he should have s choice wether he wants to go to his dads or not (I believe)
I agree with rules and boundaries but military should be kept for the army!

I think it's ridiculous. A 13 year old boy should not need to ask permission to have food in his own home.

This ^

My teenage boys have hollow legs and are always finishing up leftovers in the fridge.

He sounds a controlling arse as does anniehm with her gluttonous rubbish