Wwyd in this situation, is there ANYTHING that can be done in this situation?

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A family member has a dd aged 15.
Hasn’t been to school since she was 13 due to bullying.
Bullying led to gangs of kids outside the house threatening to burn the house down and batter the girl. So they moved house and changed school.
Girl decided that she didn’t like that school after about a week so stopped going.
Made a new set of friends, constant falling out, arguments with new group of friends, so cut off ties with them.
New group of friends arguments, constant falling out now smashing house windows, beat girl up, forcing their way into the house. Police called.
Education people involved prior to this, got girl on an education program at nearby college, but due to “immaturity and behaviour issues” she was asked to leave.
Single mother on her last nerve with it all. Landlord won’t replace windows, single mum can’t afford to pay for repairs, in debt, can’t move until repairs are done.

Girl is undergoing assessment as “they”(??) think that there is a problem with the girl from a psychiatric perspective.

It appears that she cannot form or maintain normal healthy friendships, she is constantly at the centre of any issues.
She is rude, cheeky, argumentative and very manipulative.

We are lost. What can be done?
Anyone know of similar circumstances?

There has always been problems even as a little girl but not sure if it’s related to moving house at least once a year, mother with different partners, male and lately female, mother left the child with grandmother at aged 2 for a period of about 6 months, she was very unsettled after that.
Mother & grandmother arguing about discipline and how to bring up the child all the time in front of the child, grandmother very volatile personality.
It’s a huge mish mash of problems and contributing factors to the way the girl is now.
Father not on the scene since girl was 1 or 2, no contact since.

Nothing at all?

Can't offer any help I'm afraid. But it sounds like she's a very unhappy girl. I wouldn't be at all surprised if her upbringing wasn't at the root of all of this, but what's done is done.

If I were her DM, I'd be love bombing her while simultaneously hassling GP, education team any anyone else I could think of to get her urgent and long term support.

Could she have ASD?

The adults in her life have failed her. Multiple times.

Agree with Lovinglola I'm afraid. I'm not surprised she's gone off the rails. But it's happened and now to repair it.

How? I have no idea.

Is anyone helping the Mum with the windows and the debt?

No, she has been advised to contact citizens advice re debt management.
There is no hope, no future and no life ahead of her is there.
She is undergoing assessment for a MH diagnosis, I don’t know much but it looks very much like a personality disorder.
They just throw drugs at that don’t they?

No, she has been advised to contact citizens advice re debt management.. Could go with her? It sounds like the Mother might have something going on which she needs extra support for, maybe ASD? Having said that, i actually know much about ASD but she does seem to be leading a rather chaotic life which is obviously affecting your DN

It’s just so hopeless.
How on earth can this be put right.
She is SO bright, it’s such a waste of a brilliant mind with such potential.
It makes me so sad.

Has her or her DM ever been assessed for ASD?

No. She doesn’t have asd, some anxiety and depression because of the horror and stress of it all.
She has never displayed any symptoms of asd.