Experience with SS

[Sadandupset01]

No horrible or judgemental comments please. I am at my wits end.

Has anyone ever had approached SS for help when they have found their teens behaviour difficult and challenging? If so was it useful? Did your other children end up als under investigation?
I can’t go on like this and things have turned physical and I am ashamed to say I have retaliated. I have three other younger children to consider too and feel it’s not fair on them.

What does your child do , it depends on the situation x

Complete breakdown in communication, resulting in throwing stuff breaking things name calling pushing me around hair pulling shouting.

I have had intervention in the form of Early Help. They were brilliant and I don’t know what I would have done without them. I think you can self refer, I broke down on the phone to my teens school one afternoon (poor woman!) and the school referred me.
I really feel for you and hope things improve.

Apparently parental abuse is increasingly common. That was the reason we needed help.

Is there any SEN possibly ?? Asd or adhd ? SS ( if child is violent ) may take her off you but only in various extreme cases so not to worry about this

There are programmes in my area which we would refer you to, family work targeted at teens who are violent to parents. There are also camhs interventions or family therapy.

Have you approached school in the first instance about your Teen OP? Does he / she have an EHCP? SS can help... here in my local area we have RES social workers which are voluntary on your behalf.

We also have MST here... multi systemic therapy... they can help with parenting and basically putting you back at the top rather your teen ruling the roost.

You can talk to your GP or maybe there is a family support worker at school instead of social services, they can find counselling or anger management options for your teen or supportive parenting group for you, especially if you have other DC in the house who will be picking up on the atmosphere. Please don't feel you are failing or a bad parent in some way, this can be a very lonely situation, you just need some support.

Try searching on MN or google for 'Section 20'. This is the part of the act that allows you to willingly put your child into care. This would have to be a massive last resort, and is definitely not what I recommend.
However parents who have gone that far will be able to say how interaction with SS goes with troubled teens.

Asking if there is any SEN is not very helpful.
Even if there is SEN being abused by your child isn’t suddenly ok and easier to deal with because they have SEN!

for you op, I can’t even imagine what it’s like for you.

I think if you have got to the point of wanting SA help then you know what you need to do. If your other children are witnessing g this they will need help too