How do I calm my 13 year old down?

[Motherknowsbest123]

So right now it’s Nearly 3am and my kids gone from sorting her wardrobe , to doing a bath bomb in the sink to doing her makeup too walking about upstairs . Currently sat on her bed but how do I get her Too sleep ? She’s very hyper

Has she taken something?
Does she gave any health problems?

She’s lik this almost every night , normally 1am on school nights but yes she has ADHD but only recently diagnosed so no meds as of yet

Does she normally do what you as a parent would tell her? If it was my 13 year old at midnight she’d be told to go to bed and would have stayed. How is your relationship?

Does she have any homework to do for the new term? (Half joking!)

Usually does what she is told . I tell her and she’s quiet for like 10-15 mins and then I hear her walking about or just movement again . Relationship is good with her ?? Why would this affect anything

Don't know who else lives at home but maybe have a girlie night with her. She may be lonely or bored.
At least she's organising her wardrobe and not anything negative. I would probably lye on her bed and chat.
Hope it's all ok

Has she tried watching ASMR videos on you tube? Or a really familiar not exciting film?

Asmr vids might be good might not , she can constantly switches activities anyway which I think is to do with ADHD I’m not sure as iv not got much knowledge on it due to her only recently being diagnos d

Calming or classical music as background?
Aromatherapy massage can be really helpful as a regular thing. I used to do for my dd when she couldn't sleep. Lavender oil is good.

Does she maybe have any unresolved issues she needs to talk about? Are you and her dad together? Any anxiety,is she sensitive?

Would you reccom jd music playing from the tv or some EarPods

Nope , no home life problems I can think of

youtube has some really good guided meditations.if she cant just sit to music or her mind wanders.they can be really good because your actually following a sotry or visualisation so you have to sem concentrate to get into the flow before fingers crossed being sent to sleep or at least calmed.
some body scan.also can be found on youtube.
do you mean she us up and cant get to sleep.
does she see this as normal or is kind of franticly up and pacing and doing stuff because she on edge awake type thing.
have you got any help coming up for her diagnosis.there should be help for you.ask you go for support.

Nope she just can’t get to sleep . She’s not pacing really , more just moving around her room to get from one activity to the next to from her bed to the desk or her other room which her makeup is in ect . I can’t hear much movement anymore but she’s still awake

have you talked to her about it?does she want to relax and go to bed?

I asked her b fore why she wasn’t going to sleep and she told me she was too hyper and when she tries to sleep it takes forever cause she starts thinking of loads of different random things at the same time

So sorry, sounds like you need professional advice tomorrow. You love her so much, that’s all you can give now

Ok thanks for the help anyway x iv git her wearing a Fitbit so when we do get another appt for meds we have some evidence to which they might give her melatonin

Are you ok, do you need to talk?

No I’m fine , since she got th diagnosis , everything has become so much more apparent and ho much she was struggling . I still have hardly any clue what adhd is despite reading up on it . If it wasn’t for school , she would’ve never got a diagnosis which will hopefully get her the help she needs . It’s strange to think she deals with not getting to sleep each night like I am now and I want to help her but I have no idea how

I have 13 year old DD like this. Her brother is ASD but will go to sleep fine even without asking. She gets hyper, always has done, does gymnastics 24/7, talks for hours on end like 3 hours without stopping and no-one replying etc but generally good and does very well at school though starting to have issues with talking in lessons. Got her to do ADHD survey other day and came out highly probable. No ASD signs. I'm hoping its just a phase though she's always been hyper and never shuts up but got worse since moved house. Responds a bit to being told / discipline but can also turn aggressive and attack me. Says she doesn't know why and thinks its her age. So no advice but sympathy.

I wasn’t asking if you need to talk about her, but how are you?

At that I age I would usually be up until 2, sometimes as late as four. I just couldn’t sleep. I wouldn’t move around much though so it wouldn’t be too anjoying for my parents. I’m not sure they realised actually.

Mine was less hyper at school in primary and a pain in the arse at home so only really came to light in secondary when she started constantly talking , shouting out , arguing , fidgeting ect . These drew attention to her which meant teachers could see when she wasn’t paying attention as she was one of those kids the teacher looks at often to see if she was working

Me ?? I’m fine , why ?