My son is 16 yrs old and lives with me and my partner - he does see his Dad, but in terms of him being able to help me deal/discipline him, is as useful as a chocolate teapot......
In general he is a good lad, bright and gets good grades, hugely independent, but as with most teenagers can have a vile streak. He went through a bad patch when his Dad walked out 4 yrs ago, but been better in the last year or so.
However I am at my wits end as have caught my son with dope in his room. I think he started smoking it over the long summer hols. When I have challenged him he initially denies it, then says all his friends smoke it and I am over-reacting.
Of course I took the line that I didn't want him doing ANY drugs, but continued to smell it on him. I stopped his allowance, and even told him he would have to move to his Dad's if he continued to smoke it, but nothing seems to have an affect.
I then decided to make a 'deal' with him that if he smoked weed with his mates or at parties I would turn a blind eye if I smelt it on him, but he was NOT to bring it into our house.
For a few weeks he did as he was asked but has recently started bringing it home with him again.
To make things worse, I found several grinders and a digital weighing scale in his room today whilst tidying it, and now worrying he is maybe dealing it to his friends.
He has a sat job in a pub, clearing glasses etc and just wonder if he has been making contacts through this?
I have called 'Frank' a few weeks ago, who were quite frankly useless, and after a few mins said they had other callers waiting, and virtually cut me off! They made a few suggestions but we live in rural mid wales so have no access to the support groups they suggested anyhow......
Any help/advice ?
Yours in desperation xx