DH & DD2 clash

[yummumto3girls]

Please help, these two are constantly at war and it is making mine and DD1 & DD3 lives hell!! DD14 is rude, selfish and generally a stroppy teenager but her rudeness to DH is 10x worse. DH picks on DD, constantly on at her, criticises her and talks down to her. Meanwhile I am caught in the middle, I have pleaded with both to get on, however DH is the adult and should know better. DH and I are not in a good place at the moment, DD hates him and I can see why, she would rather we split up. Tonight they have both kicked off together and then he has gone to work for the night. Tonight of all nights this happens, I am sat here in tears. Should I leave DH for everyone’s sakes, he is the cause of most of the arguments!

You should attend a parenting course as a couple, it will give you new perspective on your teenage DD and new ideas for handling her behaviour effectively. Then you and your DH can break this confrontational cycle you have settled into.

You could say very sternly: if you two want to fight do it outside in the garden as l am n9t listening to it and neither is the other dc.
Often two people with similiar personalities can clash. But , as you say, dh is the adult. Is he kind to the other dc? Is he kind to you?

It doesn't matter how he is to her or the other two children if he's emotionally abusing the third.

You need to protect your daughter. She's probably being a brat because she's lashing out against her abusive father. I did at that age.

You need to protect her, even if it costs you your marriage - otherwise it will cost you your daughter.