Do you have a curfew for your teen

[coolmum223]

So I have a 15 year old DD. She has no curfew. But I do expect her to keep in touch with me e.g where she is, who she's with. Nearly every time she's at a friends house basically having a sleepover but without the staying over part. We live in a pretty safe village we rarely have a fight happen and if we do it's probably a verbal one where each person is around 20m away from each other so I'm not worried about her getting hurt. That and she's never home seriously late around after 12 when at a party and it's usually a lift from her best friends brother who tends to be a night owl but doesn't go out much so is fine giving them lifts late at night (it helps they only live 5 minutes down the road).
She's never broken any serious rules pretty much her whole life she's been a relatively good kid which is why I have these rules in place. I'd rather her be home at 12:30 having been sitting with a few friends in her best friends conservatory talking than home at 9:00 having been sitting on a street corner drinking a bottle of vodka

Should add that's if she doesn't have school the next day but she never goes out on school nights anyway so there doesn't need to be one in place since it wouldn't get used

I wouldn’t have a problem with that but at 15 I would be the one picking her up in the car rather than relying on other people to bring her home.

When I was 15 I had to be home at 9.30pm at the latest. If I rolled home past midnight I would have been slapped all over.

My curfew changed with the event/ day.

But my parents were extremely strict...I hated it.

@Beansandcoffee he's not really a stranger me and DH have been friends with her best friends parents since we can remember (it's a long long long story) and so we know him well. I would do it but he says he'll do it mainly because since he's heavy into gaming his mum is always getting on to him about not moving enough and not taking a break so that keeps her off his back for a few minutes

Seems a bit young for me, my 15 yo needs sleep and good habits for revisions and homework schedules.

So are you asking if this is ok.ir proclaiming your way to be the best?

@JellieEllie just glad I didn't have strict parents. To be fair she's not extremely far away she only gets a lift home if it's a extremely miserable night I'd say less than once a month. Her best friends house is at the front of the estate and our house is at the back. It's about a 2 minute drive or a 7-8 minute walk between the 2 so she's not miles away

My eldest is only 13 and no she doesn't have a curfew because she doesn't need one. She only goes to friends houses or cinema or bowling or football training or youth club in the evening, and we always know exactly where she is and if she isn't sleeping over or having a prearranged lift home from another parent we fetch her. That's not being a cool mum - her social lufe is similar to the way it was when she was 9, just that she sometimes needs fetching later!

Cerfews come in when kids are out under their own steam without parental lifts and not at friends houses.

My 13 year old not having a cerfew is the same as my 7 year old not having a cerfew - it's not about being relaxed and cool, it's about it not being relevant.

My mum was chill like this and we had/have a great relationship thanks to it. I never lied to her because I didn’t need to, she always knew where I was, if I was in any trouble I knew I could call her and she would come and get me. I was actually drinking vodka outside quite a bit (which she didn’t know the details of to be fair) but so many of my friends were lying to their parents, and I never did. A bit of trust goes a long way.