Teenage sadface

[Meanderer]

Just a vent/share really - it’s so hard to see my usually cheery DD (13) come home so ‘flat’ after a day at school. It’s over a boy basically and it’s not a major drama, he’s just not into her - but I feel so sad that it took something like that to dampen her spark, that her mood (she was so elated the one time he initiated messaging with her) could be so dependant on the regard of another 😕 it’s been almost a fortnight now and I’ve hardly seen her giggle 😢 I guess it’s normal but I hoped she had more self assurance, worry a bit that we’ve not given her enough resilience 😕 mostly though just sad for her, it sucks - especially as she doesn’t seem to be able to get much comfort from us. We did have a lovely cuddle on the sofa in front of Queer Eye last night though 💗

I’ve tried to think back to my feelings at similar ages when my sons have struggled with love/infatuation issues. I don’t recount my experiences, but I find it helps me to empathise.

Lots of specific praise about their qualities helps too. And cuddles- but you’re on that already .

Good luck.

Thank you, good thoughts, I think she’s not feeling very likeable and not behaving very likeably as a result, I maybe need to remind her that she is! And yeah empathy- I don’t think I’ve really been this way, I’m not really a brooder, and was used to being ignored as a child - it’s a new experience for her! She’ll be ok I guess some of it is my own stuff about not being able to do anything about it. Thanks for responding 🙂