Where do I begin...? My 16 year old has never been an angel but was a sweet girl. She got diagnosed as a type 1 diabetic at 10 and did really well for the first couple of years. Her dad let me when DD was 13 for one of my work colleagues (very long story but was pretty distressing at the time) and so I agreed to co parent. He had been physically, financially, verbally and mentally abusive to me for I'd say the majority of our relationship, my parenting undermined, and my daughter seeing him explode, I was kind of the fire wall in the house trying to stop him getting at her, oh my god I wish I had left, not that I would have known how.
Anyhow, he moves on, they set up home, I agree 3 nights a week, stuff sort of works out for a while. I get help, try my best to bury any jealousy and hide it from DD and the revaluation this other lady did me a favour becomes apparent. I have a few boyfriends, no one worthy of meeting my daughter and I keep my personal and mum life separate. All I. The background they're storing that I'm a prostitute and the usual. They get engaged and my daughter stops her insulin, ends up in hospital. It was hell. We get out, we get a Camhs referral and I think finally we'll get the help we need, school counselling seemed to cause more problems than it solved. Camhs was awful, no diabetic help, just a trawling through the past, me getting told off for grounding DD for stealing in from of DD and just a complete mess, she decides she doesn't want to see dad so there's a 6 week period of no dad and a ton of emotional blackmail texts...
3 years on, they're married a year, I've met a new partner and he's moved in after a year of being together. We're co parenting again. My daughter becomes out of control, is abusing her insulin so I'm on hospital instructions to check everything g she does. I get a load of hassle from school telling me I shouldn't have moved in with my partner (errr... none of their business) and suddenly social services contact me, they've had a referral from school?!? WTF? We meet, it's okay, the woman suggests mediation and I think that's a great idea. She goes home.
I go up to check DDs too
For washing and find, my stolen IPad, my stolen trainers and a load of other stuff poking out of her bag! This stuff has been missing a while and she swore she didn't take it. Long story short after a calm talk about being upset with her I call her dad, it turns out he's been waiting around the corner the whole time and knew about social services?!? She's gone to live with him now and I'm scared I've lost her forever. I haven't contacted them, I'm leaving it to all calm down. I'm hoping that as they will now have to do all her care, deal with her what I feel is in appropriate behaviour with boys (she took one to my house whilst I was away for a week and was in her dads care) they will see what it's actually like to deal with her. But I'm just so worried I've been set up by them all to just look like a terrible mum, all because I finally found a man to be with who isn't a monster. That might seem irrational but I just can't trust them any more. I'm actually scared she'll come back to my house whilst we're at work and break things, steal etc. So I've gone as far as adding a deadlock. So fed up of living in fear of them.