Hello everyone,
Am new here and I need some advice from all the mums here.
Am a mother of a 17 years old daughter, that I haven't stopped crying for about a year now, every single day, morning and night, asking my self why. It has been a rollercoaster journey for the last year for our family. As a mother, you suffer the most.
My daughter last year November 2017 (16 years old) left home, accusing us that we abused her. She has been a lovingly, caring girl, (school, friends, neighbors, always talk good things about us) but she started hanging out with some other teenagers (bad reputation) , she changed, she turned into a rebel. Social services and police came involved for the first time in our life, never dealt with them before. I have a son nearly 13 years old. He was saying to all of authorities that his sister is lying but they didn't believe him, they believed her. Anyway after fighting for our rights, proving to them that isnt our fault, 6 months after we got rid of them, we paid a solicitor too. Police dint go further as there was no evidence of her lies, but social services were still behind us as if we were the criminals, not realising that they were damaging my daughter even more by giving her all the power, and i do blame them so much for not doing the right job. Now my daughter hasnt come home ever since, she wants to keep in touch with me and my son, but she cant contact her dad because she has said very bad things about him that arent true, and she knows she has done wrong. She says am sorry, i miss you but she is saying am not ready to come home yet. How long does she need to come back home? It has been a year now. Sometimes she asks me for money as she claims she is starving, but as much as it hurts, I refuse giving money to her, because it doesn't work this way.
I miss her every second of the day and i cry every night before i go to sleep. And i know she isn't coming back here even tho i still hope for her to come back. My husband is very disappointed as his little daughter isnt his little girl anymore, she is been a year without us, without our support, advice, care, love, but she chose her bad friends and social services.
I don't know what shall i do anymore? Shall I accept that my daughter isn't coming back or she will? Am scared because every step i make, it feels as if am walking on egg shells.
Please help 🙏
Thanks you