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Advise for other half's dd left school no apprenticeship no college until next year

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wintersontheway · 21/11/2018 14:26

Hi ,
My children are not at this stage yet so I have no clue re this yet...
My Partners dd is 16 did well in her GCSE's absolutely hates school, went on to 6th form in September but left last week having picked up some extra hours with her Saturday job in the week, she has a interview next week at a college but I didn't think they could 'just leave' without continuing education. I'm trying to sit on the fence with this as it's got nothing to do with me but if she were mine I'd be miffed. Anyone know if this is right?

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TeenTimesTwo · 21/11/2018 14:52

Why has she left? Doesn't like the subjects she chose? Sounds like she is aiming to restart elsewhere from September?

You aren't meant to just leave, but there don't seem to be any sanctions if you choose to. But you can't get benefits (and I think child benefit should also stop if no longer in education).

The main thing is the DD should be encouraged to be doing something, and possibly also pay rent until Sept if not in education. Idling along for 9 months would not be good for mental health.

wintersontheway · 21/11/2018 15:19

I totally agree she will get stuck in a rut and then loose all motivation, it's hard for me to say a lot because at the end of the day she's not my responsibility, such a shame because she's a bright girl, she just dislikes school I did mention the rent part... so we will see again not that it's my business, but thank you for answering I think it's ridiculous there is no sanctions for 'just leaving ' without anything in place make the whole thing a sham really. I tried to talk to her about different subjects I got no where and I looked at apprenticeships but they were all blocked apparently college is what she wants to do ... hmmm until she gets there I'm guessing

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TeenTimesTwo · 21/11/2018 15:36

Well, it might be that she blindly followed the 'stay at school to do A levels route' and has now woken up to it not being interesting enough.

Time working will help grow her up and focus her mind. If she is going to be 17 soon she could also get on and learn to drive.

There are so many courses out there, a school 6th form will only offer a small variety of A levels. There are loads of BTECs and similar, or different A levels, or Apprenticeships. Maybe she just needs breathing space to focus what she really wants out of life.

wintersontheway · 21/11/2018 16:02

Hopefully, she's such a bright girl, and loves working, I just hope she finds her path. I'm pleased that there will be no comeuppance from leaving without anything yet in place. Maybe once she starts college she will flourish. Thank you all

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anniehm · 21/11/2018 16:19

One suggestion is a service sector apprenticeship - my dd works at the famous burger outlet and they have 2 apprentices, they have online college work and once a month a supervisor from the apprenticeship scheme. It's a surprisingly good system, ideal for young people who really don't want to attend college and have a good work ethic (a former apprentice is a manager now at just 22 and is studying part time funded by work for a management degree!). They won't be alone, but young people need to be proactive in finding places

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