Please tell me about your 13yo son

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Mine is a July baby and a little bit immature for his age I guess.
That aside, I'm a bit worried that he never ever goes out or wants to go out with any friends outside of school. Not for a kick about, to hang out, even with a bit of money to buy a snack or a burger or whatever.
At his age I never wanted to be in and was always out.
My 12 year old boy is out with friends as we speak.
What do your 13yo sons do?

My 14yo is having a self-organised social event today, first time in years. Kids are all different. If he's happy & functioning well, you don't have a problem.

Mine is on his Xbox a lot but he is taking to friends while playing.

He doesn’t socialise a lot but does have a friend round after school maybe once a week.

I would love for him to be out and about more but he’s healthy and happy.

What does your DS do while he’s at home?

Is he happy with not going out, does he have friends at school?
These are things you need to consider.
My teens aren’t out ac lot although my 16 yr old DD is going out more now it has taken ages to get to this point. Sometimes it depends on who their friends are, if friends are t interested in going out, he won’t be!
Does he game online? My DS does this and its sociable for them - I don’t like it as an alternative to going out but a lot of them see it like this as it’s no hassle, free, etc.
My two won’t be cajoled into going out so they have to work it out for themselves- they are well past the age if mum organising their social lives 😆

Yeah he does have friends at school, I guess they aren't interested in going out either.
He went out a couple of times when he started secondary school but was home within an hour as he said all they wanted to do was get into trouble so he came away. I'm pleased he did, but he has since made more friends who I'm guessing aren't bothered about going out.
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I know before long I'll hardly see him at all as eventually he will want to be out doing things all the time, just wanted to know he's not that different to others so thanks for the replies.

Thanks for posting this OP, I've been thinking the same. My DS 12 only goes out to his hobby sport with at least 1 parent several times a week, but isn't interested in going out other than that. He loves Fortnite and plays that at all other times. All his friends play it too so he socialises with them through that but isn't interested in going out to town or cinema. He says none of them go out like that either.
At 12 DD was often out with her closest friends, swimming, cinema, shopping, but she didn't use the Xbox so all her socialising was in person or Snapchat.

I'm just watching Home Alone with teen kids being left alone and they all seem much more eloquent and sociable than DS, but he is a quiet kid and very happy in his own company so I'm trying hard not to pressure him into being someone else.

Mine was at home a lot but we cut back on all screens and encouraged him to organise a couple of trips woth some mates to the cinema and swimming. doing it off his own bat now

Mine goes out occasionally. He's kind of laid back passive so tends to go out when others suggest it rather than setting anything up himself. He does do scputs and llays in a couple of bands so tbf weekends are his only down time.