I’m looking for advice. My 13 year old dd told me back in February she thought she could be transgender, of course I was supportive to her, I’ve always said to my children they can tell me anything and important to not suffer. But inside I just couldn’t believe it, I felt guilty I felt this way, but I couldn’t help thinking, maybe it’s a phase. She told me she hates her chest and wants to be flat chested. [she is still not developed much in that area) We had lots of conversations, she came to a conclusion there was no rush and would see how it went, she was still happy for me to call her my daughter and a she.
A couple weeks ago, after her begging me for ages, she had her hair cut very short. She said she was ok with being a girl but still didn’t want a chest and curves. I kept thinking it was just being worried about growing up.
But this week she’s told all her friends that’s she is now a boy. I’ve read her messages, I know it’s wrong, but I was worried about her. In telling her friends she’s told them all I’m fine with it all and going to let her take hormones. This is not true at all, we’ve not even had this talk. She’s said her dad hates her and won’t speak to her, or even look at her, this again is not true, although he’s not really understanding about it and confused, he’s not actually spoken to her about it and treats her exactly the same as always.
I just don’t get why she is actually lying about the situation.
I’ve also seen a message to a girl telling her she self harms, this I know she doesn’t, if she gets a tiny scratch she’s showing me and complaining and not worried about showing her arms or legs. Another thing which is strange is she cooked this lovely cake, it was really lovely, but she told all her friends she burnt it.
Do you think it could all be attionion seeking?