Should my 16 year old son get a job?

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My partner keeps nagging my son to get a part time job that fits around his college. I understand why it's important but I'm not really bothered if he does or doesn't get one. My son just doesn't want one because he's worried he won't cope with his college work as well. He just scraped through his GCSE'S (he has to re-take his English) And he's just about managing to keep on top of his college assignments. But my partner still insists he get a job. He reckons the reason why he is struggling is because he spends too much time playing on his xbox or watching YouTube! We turn the internet off at 10.30 every night during the week so he goes to bed at a reasonable time but he has asked for the curfew to be extended during the Xmas hols but my partner has said no. Not until he gets a job! It's stressing me out! It doesn't help that his dad doesn't want him to get a job I think it's because he's worried that he won't go and see him every other weekend if he has to work! I'm in the middle and don't know what to do!

I can see why you have taken his controllers but I don't think a 16 year old is going to respond in the way you want by doing this.
Taking his controllers away is probably just going to make him angry and he won't get any work done as he will feel like he's being treated like a child even though he's acting like one

I would call him downstairs and say you need a chat. Tell him the last thing you want to do is stop him gaming completely BUT gaming has to be a part of his life not all of it. Tell him you are concerned about his college report and it clearly shows he needs to put a bit more effort in. Hopefully he'll still be calm at this point if you have emphasised that you want him to have time for gaming. Then I would try to get him to agree to a schedule that includes college, study at home and gaming. Let him know that whilst you are happy for him not to get a job so that he can keep up with college etc, you are not going to allow him to spend all his time gaming, putting little effort into college and not getting the best results possible. If he's generally a reasonable lad, who wants to do well at college he'll come round to the idea.