And now I don’t trust the friends or feel comfortable around them
I think this is normal to some extent - she’s 16
But the things she has told me about them make me seriously dislike and mistrust these ‘friends’. Yet this weekend she wants my permission to go to a party and then sleep over.
The parent who is allowing this party who I’ve never met text to say she was allowing alcohol. They are all 15 and 16. DD and I had a long chat where I offered to buy her some 0% ‘faux’ type things or posh soft drinks, DD said she didn’t even want to drink real alcohol so I replied that I would not be providing actual booze and she wasn’t drinking. I would collect her at 11pm. I want to trust my DD
Now her group are pressuring her to stay at someone’s house, someone I don’t like from DD reports - bad behaviour at school, casual drug and alcohol use, drama and always falling out with people, very troubled family life. I have hosted this child at my house because I don’t want to push DD into keeping this friend a secret etc and perhaps we can be good role models for this child? I’m trying to find a middle ground
DD is now upset I said no to changing plans and not being collected from party at 11pm - first ever parent free party with provided alcohol she’s ever attended. I don’t know any of the adults or how responsible they are, how long they will be out of the house. I have invited unsuitable friend to sleep at ours but this isn’t good enough apparently which just makes me more suspicious they have some plans they don’t want me to know about
I’m new to this socialising thing - please advise me! Am I being unreasonable and over protective?