How well do you sleep when you teens are out on a Saturday night?

[Bouledeneige]

DD18 post A levels is living at home whilst doing a foundation year. Most of her friends have gone to university but she's still got a good social life and made some great friends on the new course.

DD16, year 12, started new 6th form and has made loads of new friends both male and female - his social life has suddenly blossomed.

I live with them but on my own, they rarely go and stay with their Dad now - my XH - they just got fed up of changing houses (and I'm the lively, engaged one obviously!).

Neither child go out during the week much but they can both be out on Friday and Saturday - often quite spontaneously. I try to treat DD as a grown up (she would be at university now if it weren't for her subject choice) she's very responsible and I'm used to her going out. Though sometimes if its clubbing she will get back in at 4am.

I ask that both text me when they are coming home which they are both good at doing. I guess the new element is my DS going out - I'm really glad he's having fun and got lots of new friends (he's had some ups and downs with friendships in the past).

My problem is that I don't sleep too well - its in fits and starts. I read the messages when they are returning and then only sleep lightly till I hear them come back in. Or I drop off and then wake up and check they arrived in safely or wake up when I hear them in the house.

We are well served with lots of public transport, live in a safe area and they have Uber for back up if required. Both are e

My problem is I'm getting quite tired from this scratchy sleep. Is it just a question of getting used to it overtime?

Hi! I sympathise as I'm in a very similar position. DD1 is out clubbing till the small hours most Saturday nights. She is 19 and, like you, I know I need to treat her as an adult. She has had mental health problems in the past though, which doesn't help! I also ask for a text to say she is on her way home. She's been pretty good at this (although forgot last night). I've found however that I have got better at sleeping through this as I've got more used to it. I do still wake with at some point, panic, and check the phone though - if it's after 4 and there's nothing, then I get worried. I think it's a case of getting used to it and gaining confidence that she will be just fine (as I was!).

No advice but understand the sleepless nights. My daughter came home from 16th birthday at 4:30am on Saturday night/Sunday morning and I hardly slept a wink. We live in Ireland and it is very common place for teenagers to be at house party’s etc that go on until all hours. They are all fairly well behaved but I can never relax when they’re out!

It doesn't get any better I'm afraid. When they went to uni it was fine as I didn't know when they were out but eldest came back to live at home for a year after uni and I still worried when he was out at 22 years old.