My 16yo daughter made a big mistake putting herself at risk whilst she was at her dads house.
He phoned to tell me & we agreed how to handle the situation. I gave her a rollicking & took her tech devices off her.
The following day, he went back on everything we agreed & picked my daughter up & took her back to his. I’ve now been painted as being the bad guy. He has made up lies about our divorce (quite why is beyond me as we divorced over 10yrs ago). She hasn’t spoken to me for 2 months.
He has stopped maintenance payments for our other daughter even though we have a court order.
On the surface he says he’s asked her to contact me but I know he’s filling her head with stories and lies. I believe he is really messing with her mental health. People think my ex is a great guy but I know what sort of person he is behind closed doors.
I have been in touch with her school to keep an eye on her.
I’ve always been close with my 2 daughters. They have had everything they’ve ever needed - always provided for by myself & my new husband. My ex is jealous of this even though he has a partner.
The money side doesn’t bother me - that needs to be on his conscience which it doubtfully is.
I just want my daughter to speak to me & come home. I reached out for help two weeks ago for counselling. They said they’d get back to me the following day - I’m still waiting. Took courage to admit to needing help, so I really don’t want to have to chase them. I’m not eating, sleeping. I have panic attacks. It’s affecting my relationship with my husband. I’m worried how my other daughter is having to watch me suffer - I try to put on a mask for her but it’s exhausting.
I don’t know what else to do.