Party- advice needed

[Allfurcoatandnoknickers]

My 15yo’s sneaky friend and her 17yo sister have asked their parents if they can have a party. They said yes when they’re in.
They have planned to do it when their parents are away.
My daughter has told me this which I’m pleased about but I’m good friends with her friend’s mum.
Do I grass her in? She’s said she’s going to clean up and then tell her parents! Little minx.

Why are the parents going away?

Not sure - don’t know the detail but they’ve said girls can stay at home.

Yes, you tell them.....

They’ll know something’s gone on as soon as they walk back in.

If my friend knew and didn’t tell me I’d be really upset.

Yes I will tell her for this reason. Wish her daughters hadn’t put me in this position.

You are good friends with the mum but you don't know why they are going away?

No I don’t. I think they’ve got a family party- not really sure why that’s relevant?

Its relevant in terms of how close you are. That's a key factor in how to deal with this situation.

Never mind

Do what you would like a friend to do for you. Doesn't matter if you are close or not. You're an adult and you think these girls are doing the wrong thing. Why wouldn't you say? I'd tell my daughter I was going to and let her tell her friend too.

It's surely not going to be a surprise to the parents of 15 and 17 yr olds, that if they are left 'home alone' they will have a party whilst their parents are away, is it ?
Hasn't everyone done that since time immemorial ?

Personally I think it’s naive to think that your kids wouldn’t do it. I am going to tell my friend- who is a good friend - and do as I would be done by....

I'd definitely tell her - I've heard of too many people whose teens parties have got out of hand when people they haven't invited have shown up.

As for not knowing why your good friend is going away - she said good friend not "woman I'm stalking"! I go away all the time without mentioning why to my own mother - and shockingly sometimes go away for no reason at all!

Steady on now ladyme

@Allfurcoatandnoknickers

Well, you've got to keep them guessing!