Worried about DS 13

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What is it when you actually believe something that did not happen!!!

His version - We had conversation earlier about school, he said he ‘told me about working in a room, the number of the room whilst standing by his curtains in his bedroom’

What actually happened- we had a conversation about him working in another room because he was feeling anxious, he was in his bedroom, he was sitting on a chair at his desk and was swinging on it and I kept putting my hand on it to stop this- at NO point was he standing and at NO point did he mention a room number.
At dinner he mentions T15 was good today, I thought it was a game and asked what it was, that's when he kicked off and shouted 'I told you earlier' He swears blind it was his version of events that had occurred and has just shouted and screamed all the upstairs punching the bannister along the way.

He does have a temper, punches out at furniture but never at us.

This is not the first time that he had imagined something that has happened that hasn't or that he has said that he didn't.

It's so frustrating because there is no reasoning with him, even when he is calm. He just replies 'I know what said so there you go' or 'ok, whatever.'

Should I take him to doctors or have a word with the school?

Just don't know what to do.

Mine has done this too. I let it ride and when he is calmer I joke that he had a Kevin & Perry moment or call him a teenage dirtbag, both of which make him laugh and the tension is gone. They're a mess of ranging hormones at that age and I choose my battles. Confusion over a conversation I can live with - he's generally a lovely boy but flies into these ranges for no apparent reason occasionally. I was far more stroppy at his age.

Thanks boys perhaps I'm over thinking again I think he is going through a bit of rough time at school, teasing etc and that's why his anxiety is rearing it's ugly head again. Will keep an eye on him as he is a good lad and still loves mummy snuggles before bed. Lots of reassuring needed I think. Thanks again

No worries I think everything just gets too much for them sometimes at that age and they just lash out because they don't know how to deal with their emotions yet. It reminds me of when he was a toddler - changing from a baby to a boy. Now he's changing from a boy to a man and not surprisingly it is challenging at times. Literally overnight he sprouted pubic hair - can you imagine waking up wondering WTF happened? I just try to be patient with him and remember how hard I found being a teenager (and this was before all the pressures of social media).

Reassuring him will help I'm sure and lots of mummy snuggles sounds really comforting - just what he needs right now when he's trying to make sense of everything. Hopefully the outbursts will reduce, we're on one every couple of months or so and I can live with that.