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How to stop DD15 making up shit and attention seeking

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YouknowIknow43 · 04/10/2018 23:07

Since she started secondary school she has come out with some stuff, she even lied about crazy happenings to some creep on the internet but that's a whole other story.

She admitted she lost her virginity two weeks ago and they didn't use anything despite all the chats. So now everyone at school thinks she's pregnant because she's making out she's fatter and so much more hungry. In two weeks. Because she wants them to think she is.

How do I stop these insane stories and just general bad attention seeking from her? She's going to get a few names for herself and it won't be a nice ones.
I just want to lock her up.

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anitagreen · 05/10/2018 00:10

I know someone who used to be like this when we was younger, they would be such an attention seeking drama queen always something was going on centre of everything and we never found out why she did it. Nothing shocked her she ended up in so many bad situations and it didn't phase her at all. I think at 15 hormones take over and with the rise of social media and everything being so accessible kids are going a bit out of control.i would just continue trying to talk to her and ask what's causing her to do all this? Is she being bullied? Are you open with each other?

gimbles · 05/10/2018 00:31

Honestly? Talk to her. There is something missing for her to feel the need to do this. Try and get to the bottom of it.

YouknowIknow43 · 05/10/2018 10:12

I have spoken to her about a lot of this, we even had ss helping her with relationships etc. She was referred to CAHMS but they couldn't help as she's not as serious as other children.
She hasn't seen her father since she was just under 4 so I know she has issues with being wanted but I don't know how to fix that as he has no intention of being a father, I have been the only consistent person in her life. I feel like she wants to get pregnant because someone will love her, I have explained it's not as easy as that.
I just want her to concentrate on herself, I have anxiety and struggle with self esteem, it must have rubbed off on her.

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khakoney · 05/10/2018 13:04

Self identity crisis

worknamechanged · 05/10/2018 13:06

She needs support. Can you look at private therapy?

YouknowIknow43 · 07/10/2018 20:31

@Khakoney thank you for that, I have looked into it and it sounds like my DD, I will look into private therapy as @worknamechanged suggested to get her help quicker, it's hard as she gets older as panic sets in that she will be an adult soon and all I want to do is stop time.

@anitagreen she does get stick at school but I sadly can say some of it is down to her as she says weird things and is pretty much emotionally unstable at times so she reacts in ways others maybe wouldn't.

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Lara53 · 22/10/2018 19:11

Has she been assessed for Asperger Syndrome? This sounds similar to a couple of girls I know with it. They lie for attention and lie more to get themselves out of a situation they’ve created and make it worse

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