Snap Chat

[Flippant74]

Snap Chat drives me insane! My DD 14 and all her friends seems totally addicted to it...... They literally start messaging each other the minutes they have left each others company and continue all night, up until her phone is taken away from her to enable her to sleep! Any other parents feel my pain?!!

On another note - I wander if any of you have any ap's or software that successfully recover the s/c messages? Daughter has an ifone 8plus, which is not unlocked.

There is an issue between DD and another girl (initiated by the other girl because my DD stood up to her over the way she was treating another friend), which I believe is getting very heated and quite nasty. I am keen to have a wee look if possible at what is being said. I have asked DD and she is simply shutting the conversation down. I know that I should wait to let her come to me if the issue becomes big, but the other girl has a particularly nasty streak, and I am quietly worried.

Ideally it needs to be something that she isn't aware is on her phone, as all trust would be lost forever if she thought I was looking for information.

You can't. The point of snap chat is that everything you send disappears after 24 hours. Or less, I am not sure.
I take my son's phone away the second he his home during the week and I have put a fair amount of restrictions.

If things are turning nasty, eliminate the app from her phone, put the website on the restricted list, disabled the option to install app and she won't be on nor able to access snapchat.

Oh and I do regular checks on my son's phone and he knows that . Not in secret, with him there. I paid for his phone, I pay for his credit, I get access.

@Flippant74 I have just been looking through my 13 (almost 14) year old daughters phone too.
Snapchat is so annoying because I can't see what goes on there and it looks like she uses that for most of her communicating.
Although through looking at her Instagram I have found out many things anyway ☹️

You could however have a look at there photos, because it isn't unusual for teens to take screenshots as they know things disappear.

Snap chat has a feature you can enable to keep messages and pictures up for 24 hours before deleting, I think that's the max.

DC is also really addicted to it and I'm confused I don't get the hype and I'm quite tech savvy. I guess I just prefer interesting apps haha

Although snapchat also drives me mad unfortunately times have changed from when we were young and social media is now a major part of our teens lives. I personally don’t agree with snooping through my DDs phones as I think they are entitled to privacy and just because I’m their mum I don’t need to be privy to all their conversations. Obviously if you think there are nasty or inappropriate communications going on then you need to discuss this with your daughter and try to give her the tools to deal with this herself. I think looking through phones only encourages more secrecy.

Full disclosure or no phone/internet is the rule in our house.

I don’t snoop, or needlessly invade their privacy, but equally I have a responsibility to ensure they’re safe.

Be prepared to follow through though!

DSD1 was caught bullying someone via Snapchat (after having it done to her!) and the first time resulted in no phone for a week. The second, a month with a strict warning that the third would be permanent.

It was.

Get your dd to screen shot all her communication with nasty girl.
My rule is that( bloody irritating) streaks are done by 8.30 pm, or before she leaves the house for any evening activity. After that the phone is downstairs on silent being charged.
Some parents obviously have no idea/ don’t care what their kids are up to, she gets messages through the night.
At year 10 the 8.30 cut off gives her brain a bit of screen free time before she needs to sleep.

Don’t screenshot on snapchat, the other person can see that it’s been screenshotted (my DSD explained that)

Take a photo on another device to collect evidence.