Anyone just dropped off their teen at uni?

[HildegardCrowe]

I dropped my daughter (only child) off at uni last weekend and had no idea how it would hit me. She seems to be settling in really well and has already reported that she's having the time of her life. I'm really grateful for that and very excited for her. Before she left I thought I'd just take it in my stride, come home and pick up where I left off. But I'm VERY emotional, trying not to weep in Sainsbury's and drifting round the house like a lost soul. I'm resisting the urge to want to contact her too much as I want her to adjust to her new life and not get in the way.

I'm a single mum and I think that's made it harder but do have lovely friends (some of whom are in the same boat) and my ex (her dad) is being quite caring towards me which is very uncharacteristic of him! I know it will get easier but I feel bereft and would like to know how others are adjusting/have adjusted to this big life change.

I dropped my DS off yesterday and I was so happy for him, came home and it hit me , I still have DD at home but it feels like the house is empty and very quiet. He has left his room in a mess so doesn’t feel like he’s really left yet and I’m annoyed with him for that. Have already told him I may have to bring the dogs for a visit as they are missing him too.

Really sorry, can see that DuracellBatteryBunny started a similar thread recently...will go and have a read.

Dropped him off on Saturday - still find myself looking forward to chatting with him when I get home from work, only to remember that I won't be seeing him for another five weeks.

I came home and lay on my sons bed and cried and cried and cried. It was a completely unexpected and overwhelming sense of loss and sadness that those precious first 18 years were over. The sadness lasted a good two weeks.

Then he came home for Xmas, was SUPER irritating (beware of First Year-itis! 😄) and I secretly couldn’t wait for him to go back! Now, he’s in his final year, we plod along nicely exactly as we’re supposed to do. He comes home and it’s no longer sad when he leaves again.

That's all good to hear MakeItStop. I just need to focus on her happiness and know that this stage is positive and normal. I am beginning to appreciate how nice it is to claim back the bathroom but will avoid walking past her primary school for a while!