I take my DD phone away at night and charge it in the kitchen so that she can sleep - if I left it in her room she would be on snap-chat with her friends until the early hours of the morning.
When plugging it in last night she had not shut down all the apps and a web page was open. This lit up as I plugged the charger in - It was a fact page on the early signs of pregnancy. I could see from her google search that she had researched "early signs of pregnancy".
DD is 14 and has a boyfriend (also 14). We recently had another conversation (we have had a few now!) about sex as I am aware that they are spending a lot of time together and are becoming extremely close.
If I have learnt anything from this brilliant website, it is to communicate with my teenagers, and I now also try to be as open and honest with them as I can, in the hope that they feel confident to talk to me about anything.
The reason for the conversation was due to the fact that I am aware that there is a 14 year old at another school in our area who is pregnant and has decided to keep the baby. We were discussing how hard it must be for the girl/boy and their families to make that decision, and how their lives will all change in the next few months.
The result of the conversation was her telling me that she hadn't gone that far with him as she didn't think that she had been going out with him for long enough and that she didn't feel ready yet (huge sigh of relieve from me, followed by I think you're making a great choice by waiting as I feel that 14 is too young to!). She did offer the information that they had spoken about it.
She has very short breaks between periods with her cycle happening every 10-13 days at the moment. She has recently gone on the pill to try and regulate things (she's 3 weeks in to her first packet). She got her period again on Friday.
With the fact that she has her period, I am confused about why she would have googled this. She's a clever kid and knows that periods stop when you are pregnant.
Is it because they have actually done and and she's now worried, and has forgotten the practical facts that she knows? She has been feeling sick over the weekend with sore boobs and a stomach ache - all period related - but to a worried teenager could be seen as signs of pregnancy??? Or is it perhaps something that she is researching for a friend.
I am wondering whether I mention that I saw the open webpage on her phone and try and get her to talk to me about it, without feeling as though I have been snooping or don't trust her. Or do I just ignore it, as I know that she isn't pregnant, but then I'm left wandering if she had lied to me about having sex?
I'm feeling surprisingly calm - but that's probably only because I know she has her period!