DS13 and sexting

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Usernameinuseffs · 15/09/2018 22:49

I have a DS 13 (14 in Dec) Who has had a GF for about 3 months. I don't think they have even kissed, he has ASD and super shy.
About a month ago she instigated sexts via Instagram, we had a chat with him and it stopped. It has restarted and is super graphic. I know it's usual for them to think about it And there's no photos sent but I don't want to spit them up if he says no to it and I also don't want him to do it.
How the he'll do I approach it tomorrow? I've taken his phone to Monday. This teen thing is hard!

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specialsubject · 16/09/2018 14:27

she is sending child porn, very twisted. Her parents need to know.

I know mn will kick off 'with they all do it' but get real, this is horrible. if this girl thinks it is ok to send these pictures she has big problems.

LusaCole · 16/09/2018 14:33

Specialsubject - the OP says no pictures.

afreshnewname · 16/09/2018 14:48

And even if there was pictures, there's no such thing as child 'porn'

MissLingoss · 16/09/2018 14:58

Are they at the same school? This is a safeguarding issue, and also possibly illegal, and should be reported to school. Send an e-mail with 'Safeguarding' in the subject line, or telephone and say it's about a safeguarding issue.

Synecdoche · 16/09/2018 15:12

Maybe get him to tell his GF that his mum is reading/checking his messages/taking phone away at night (even if you're not). Hopefully that will embarrass her into not sending any more?

If he has a bit of a faux moan about how strict you are or something to her then it might hopefully stop the messages without your DS having to 'lose face' to his GF? That kind of thing matters at 13, tricky age that it is!

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Usernameinuseffs · 16/09/2018 16:36

It is so tricky! We had a long chat with him this morning, he hands his phone in at night anyway and when he asked for it back this morning I said no and asked if he knew why, he knew straight away.
I stood over him and he text her and said that his parents had found his messages and his phone was being confiscated for a bit. We had a huge chat about sex not being the way it is in porn etc and that I won't pay his phone bill if this is what he's doing.
I have told him to thoroughly blame me to her so he's not 'losing face' with her. Fingers crossed it sinks in. I may mention to school that an assembly or something on sexting might be a good idea.

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Usernameinuseffs · 16/09/2018 16:37

Also sorry for my typos lastnight, I was all stressed about dealing with it I didn't check!

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