Teenager's "party"

[dontknowwhattodo80]

Hi all

Wanted to see how others deal with this ..

If your child ( 15) asks a group of friends to go out for something to eat for their birthday would you pay for everyone? Or everyone pay for themselves?

Thanks!

[Sundance2741]

Dd is year 9. She went to quite a few parties in Y7 and 8. All paid for by the host's family. Some were at the family house but might have photo booth etc that cost quite a lot. Others at paid for venues. We had a party for her in Y7 where they went to a pottery place then came back to ours. We paid for it all but only had 6 guests. Last year dd organised her own party for about 10 at our house. She hasn't yet had to pay for someone else's party.

Older dd didn't go to a lot of parties. And didn't necessarily have her own but did sometimes go bowling or cinema & pizza with 2 or 3 friends. I can't recall now if we paid but I think we would have done. We would certainly have booked the bowling or cinema online.

But in your case the agreement was Dominosat home - that's what I'd stick to and see the cinema as an extra not included as part of the party.

[Isentthesignal]

I'd only pay if I was going to the cinema too and with a 15 year old ds that's unlikely. Of course pay for dominos.
When ds started arranging these kind of events with his friends, he worried about the who was paying question so, I got ds to make it clear that we weren't paying for his friends to go to the cinema - by asking them if one of them if he should pre-book the seats and everyone could pay him at the cinema, it sent out a clear message without being too confrontational about it.

[Hoozz]

I think if you can afford it and would like to treat them all then pay. Just don't see it as a quid pro quo and resent it if other parents don't pay. I was happy to pay, not least because one or two of the friends wouldn't have been able to go otherwise as their parents wouldn't / couldn't pay.