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How do I tackle CONSTANT lying.

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thesendiaries · 06/09/2018 09:52

Teen is 15 and lies constantly and it is driving me to breaking point.

Some of it is just silly lies which make no sense. I. E lying that she is on her way home from school when she is in town shopping with friends when I would have no issue with her going shopping in the first place (usually find out when they tag her in social media posts.)

She does find social situations difficult due to minor learning difficulties and often lies to fit in. I'm aware of this but this isn't an excuse for some of the awful stuff she has said.

Some of the lies are way more serious.
She has lied in the past about stuff which has then been flagged at school in primary. I was called in school and could back up everything she said as being untrue but she realised how serious it was and it stopped.

At secondary over the last 18 months it's started again and she lies to me and about me constantly.
Some of it is social stuff to avoid having to do things she doesn't want to using me as an escape by saying I won't allow it.
Saying I bought her something she actually chose herself and slagging me off for buying it.

Other stuff is awful and includes lying about things I and others have done to her.

She lies where she is constantly.
She lies about stuff that has happened to her constantly.

I have no trust in her what so ever and it's awful. I don't know what to do anymore.

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princessmumy · 08/09/2018 19:25

Hi, this must be so stressful.
Maybe getting her to your doctor and getting counseling would help?

thesendiaries · 09/09/2018 00:28

Thanks princessmummy, I have actually spoken to Young Mind about the situation and everything else which has occurred and I have spoken to see about counselling but the waiting list is quite big.

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Marie0 · 09/09/2018 19:08

My 13 year old son is the same. Lies about everything also, it's infuriating!

He will lie about whether he has had something to eat and drink, say on a weekend and I'll find sometimes he's been out all day on a Saturday without so much as a glass of water! All because he can't be bothered to eat when he first gets up - he just wants to go out. I've even made some sandwiches and left a bottle of water for him (he'll take it to his room and I'll find it later untouched).

Constantly lies about his whereabouts (I check his phone so know where he has actually been which contradicts where he says).

He lies about who he's with, what he's doing, he'll lie about his day - again stupid and pointless things like says he's done a lesson that he hasn't or what he has eaten for lunch.

What makes it worse is when I confront him and it's obvious I know he is lying - he will carry on lying with more lies!! Unbelievable .

Although it's SO annoying I have tried to detach myself and convince myself it is a phase that hopefully he will grow out of.

thesendiaries · 09/09/2018 21:58

Thanks all. Will have a look at those links. That is most helpful.

Marie yes the lies continue when confronted here too! I'm sorry to hear you are having similar issues but it's good to know I'm not the only one.
Like I've said some of the lies are pointless but some could have serious consequences.

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Soontobe60 · 09/09/2018 22:02

TBH, I used to lie constantly to my parents at that age. I don't know why! Now, I'm so honest it's unbelievable! And I would be mortified if anyone thought I was lying.

thesendiaries · 09/09/2018 22:03

Sorry ignore me. I'm going bonkers. The links were on another thread!

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