How to look after a teen?

[PorlockHeaven]

Help needed. My ds is 13. He is becoming a grumpy, lazy, tech obsessed pain! I hate what it is making me become. I seem to spend all my time telling him to do his homework, to tidy his room, to turn off the PlayStation, to get off his phone etc I realize this is all normal behaviour for a teen but he does nothing expect hanging with friends or tech. I only allow him about for 4 hours with friends as they were doing stupid stuff like vaping, setting light to aerosols etc. He seems to have made friends with some arseholes. I was thinking of introducing a school day routine as follows: straight back from school, then allowed out for an hour or so. Then homework or reading for 1 hour, dinner, then free time for tech etc bed at 9 pm ish. Does that sound reasonable for a year 8 boy?

that does sound reasonable to me, except i wouldn't have tech time just before bed. it can keep him up at night.

Yes agree that the PlayStation should be off an hour before bed.
I'm not sure about weekends. Should I insist on some family time? I hate him being out most of the day as Lord knows what they are getting up to. He is not a bad lad but is a bit of a follower.

i would try and do something as a family at the weekends. it's always difficult for the kids if they get in with the wrong group, and its just unfortunate that he has. so, yes, as i said before, i would do something as a family at the weekends. you could also persuade him to join a youth group maybe? he may enjoy that and he would meet new people.

Does he do any sport at all OP? It's a great way of channeling their energy. I also find that my 13 yo DS hangs around with friends from sport who are more like minded and less likely to do the stupid stuff.

What about finding some 1:1 time with him? Ds and I bond over Netflix box sets.