14 year old stepdaughter

[Latinmeadow25]

I am stepmom to a 14 year Old who, along with her maternal grandma, is challenging her dad on the amount of money she is given for clothes. So the deal is she gets 10 pound a week pocket money from her dad, 10 a week from grandma and 20 pound a month clothing allowance. She does no chores around the house. I would stress she is a lovely girl, she keeps her room tidy and is generally polite and happy, subject to hormones. I think 100 per month is more than enough money, AIBU

JESUS. That is a LOT of money. Just for clothes? What's this supposed to cover?

I work ft and don't have that to spend on myself!!

What does she "need" to buy from her pocket money?

£100 a month my SD gets £5 a week and clothes are bought by her mum and dad as and when she needs them! If she ever needs more her dad may treat her, he may not. £100 is an unbelievable amount for a 14 year old unless it is going in to a savings account for her future. YANBU

But its not all for clothes is it? She needs spending money and credit for phone bus money etc. I would expect her to buy some clothes from that. But is someone buying her a winter coat/ shoes/ boots/ new jeans...just the practical stuff to kerp her warm.
What about hair cuts? Hobbies like swimming? It all depends on what it has to cover.

@junebirthdaygirl surely at 14 her parents take her for haircuts and would supervise what kind of coat/boots were being bought? (I would probably have bought something ridiculous when I was 14 ) - I could be wrong!

£100 disposable income a month at 14?

Rod, own back springs to mind.

That is more than adequate for a 14 year old!

I don't have £100 disposable income and I am 37. Does this carry on when she's older? If she gets a part time job?

Seems just about right to me, presumably dad/mum buy essential clothes, underclothes, school uniform etc. She needs other spends, clothes aren't the only things but I think she'd manage OK on that amount.

Her mum doesn’t contribute to anything as she lives with us. We pay for haircuts, school coat, uniforms, essential toiletries, bus fares.

Oh and we pay her phone and hobbies!

Does her Mum pay you maintenance?

In that case what she gets is fine. If you can afford it and it would be useful to you some extra money for doing chores (like cooking a family meal) could work.

Why doesn’t her Mum pay maintenance? If maternal grandma is so bothered, she should foot the bill or get her daughter to!

I still don't get what a 14 year old is spending £100 a month on, especially if you're paying for all the listed things. Is this likely to increase with age?

Like a PP said, if you can afford it, then fair enough

£100 pounds should be enough. Just tell her to get a job/start an online business if she wants more money.

Bloody hell - so that's just for fun money then? She is going to get a massive shock when she gets a job & has to start paying for her own stuff. Her family are setting her up for enormous disappointment & difficulties in being able to budget.

I don't think it's very much. I was given similar in the early 2000s. Clothes are expensive.

I think it's sufficient, but not excessive.

Does she have to buy shoes from the 80 pounds per month clothing allowance?

Agree with other posters that she could - if it's appropriate in your home - do chores for extra cash, or otherwise look for a job (babysitting?)

Thank you ladies, i think we will talk to her and say anymore has to be earned. Mum pays 50 pound a month and grandma just undermines us all the time. I think she is not learning the value of money. She is walking round with genuine Michael kors handbag and drinking coffee in pret!

Boilin thats what l meant. If her df buys her her regular stuff and hairdresser etc 100 is plenty for a teens needs. O see thats what does happen. But if she was expected to buy proper clothes its not enough.

Is she trying to buy Kanye West's wardrobe?

And how many clothes does she need to buy a month?

I'm deeply envious but she's going to be in for a shock when she has to go out and work and isn't getting pocket money from you.

I have no idea why this bothers me tbh. If you're happy and can afford it and she is, then 🤷🏽‍♀️

It just feels like a lot for a 14 year old.

My concern is she is not learning any financial responsibility and whilst I want her to enjoy life I also want her to learn the value of money. Grandma has just bought a bottle of perfume for 110 pound for doing well in her report. Personally we have her s big hug Nd said how proud we were