Nearly 14 year old DD

[vilamoura2003]

So interesting conversations with DD - nearly 14 years old about to go into year 9. She was watching 24 hours in Police Custody, the episode about a paedophile and someone distributing images of porn 🙄

I have in a nutshell tried to explain porn and what a paedophile is, together with a vigilante (which was the basis of that particular episode) - oh joy.

Anyone got any hints on how to deal with "what is porn"?

How does a 14 year old not know what all these things are?

Porn is sexually explicit pictures and videos that some people use for masturbation, but as an industry it's riddled with abuse
A paedophile is a child molester
A vigilante is someone like batman, they believe they have the right to dole out justice rather than allowing the judiciary system to do so - oftentimes leading to violence and mistrials because it is outside of the law

As a judge (I believe) once said "I can't tell you what it is but I know it when I see it".

The trouble is any explanation has to be able to explain why old master paintings depicting nudity, sex and violence are art.

A paedophile is easier - a person who wants to have sex with pre-pubescents.

@LemonysSnicket she is quite young for her age I think and not very street wise, she has lived all her life in a village and I think must have led a sheltered existence 🙄

I went with the Batman description for the vigilante, and she kind of knew what a paedophile was but wasn't entirely correct, but didn't seem to have any clue what porn was. I feel like I should point out the exploitation side of things - however I just got quite tongue tied 🙄 I think this particular episode was prosecuting a man for having indecent images of children and so the conversation started about child porn and what a terrible thing that was, and that the Police try to track down people that look at that type of stuff.

After our brief chat, I just asked her not to repeat our chat to her friends in case their parents hadn't talked to them about it just yet and it might worry them 😳

Honestly I sometimes have no clue about how to raise a teenager 😆

Fair enough if she's young for her age (although I was raised in a village and don't think that has much to do with it - probably a nice thing that she's rather innocent), I knew girls having sex at her age and I lived in a nice MC village.
Tbh, sounds like you did quite well without being too explicit although I'd be warned - she may begin to google things now to understand properly and be a bit shocked that what comes up isn't necessarily academic.

My DD didn't know about porn why would she? She is 14 had a safe environment to grow up in and had friends like her. We only discussed it this week, I am so tired of the over sexualisation of our young people.

@littlebillie can I ask what kind of things you said?

My worry is she is now going to go off and google porn 🙄 We do have parental controls on the internet security which is quite robust (it won't let me look at the National lottery numbers to see if we have won = gambling 🙄😂)