15 Year old son advice!

[theMadHouse50]

Ok my 15 year old Son is doing ok at School but has lost all sense of communication skills and never speaks nice to anyone anymore. He never makes conversation...is constantly making arguments with his 9 year old sister and seems addicted to screens. He is currently on a ban from Xbox for punching his cupboard door and smashing it up after getting angry at Xbox (although he always says it wasn't Xbox it was me winding him up). I'm at end of tether and feel like a failure as a parent. He never wants to do anything, moans when we go out and hardly goes out with his friends. Feel like I am constantly punishing him at the minute 😪

Your ds is a teenager. All those hormones, excess energy and he’s trying to see his place in the world. It’s really difficult for everyone, no surprise there.
I think you need to stay on his case over school work, try to help him with things like GCSEs and works experience but give him a bit more space around leisure time.
Have you suggested he try a new sport or activity this holiday?
Don’t feel like a bad parent. Teenagers can be a nightmare although it really isn’t their fault.

Get him a skateboard. Worked for mine.
Not entirely but it got him moving. It was the most difficult time ever.
Good luck

I have tried everything to get him interested in different things. He will have his football again when the season starts. Thank u I am going to persevere but has already been a better day without him being on Xbox so like I say to him it really proves my point that the Xbox makes him aggressive so why should we have to put up with it. I remember the teenage years and hated them but so different being on the parent side so I do try to understand xx

Looking forward to hearing all the suggestions...... PS4 rather than Xbox but it being your fault for winding him up & not the game that’s doing it sounds oh so very familiar

"like I say to him" suggests to me that you may have tried to push home the point about Xbox being to blame. I understand why you want to do that, but if you can stand back and allow him to experience the difference and find a way to genuinely reinforce the positive change he's more likely to accept, rather than push against, your point imo. For what it's worth, 15 is the worst age so far for my ds and I regularly despair at him and me for our various failings and misjudged communication . . . . hoping maturity helps.

Thank u. Tbh it has been so lovely with him on a ban...he laughs again, we have had no arguments and dreading him getting it back as know it will all start up again but I know I can't keep him off it but definitely putting more of a time limit on it