Brief backstory - I have a 16y/o DS who has a long term GF who is lovely, spends a lot of time at our house, has been away with us etc etc. I am really fond of her and they are a good couple (IMO).
DS left his phone on the table last night when he went for a shower and he was getting lots of messages. I did the unthinkable and picked his phone up and had a look! It seems he has been messaging another girl, scrolled back and he has been flirting/sexting and sending underwear pics. I can't believe it - feel horrendous that my son would behave like this and what have we raised(!).
However, he is only 16 so I must remember he is not a married man or anything but still really upset and disappointed, however DS does not know I have looked at his phone and would be really upset. However it's been bugging me every since and I feel awful for his GF. So question is, do I come clean and speak to him about his actions or keep quiet and allow this to continue!