I'm struggling with Dd (almost 15), she would happily do nothing all day, stay in her room, sleep and go on her tablet.
If I ask her to come out with me and dd2 she moans, cries and begs to stay at home, once out of the house she can either be totally fine or she can be so miserable that she ruins the day for dd2 and I.
Today I took her out, paid a lot to park the car at a local beach and then she starts with the "I don't feel well", she then refused to join in with anything and made us feel miserable.
Occationaly I will just leave her at home, when home alone she still won't come out of her room apart from going to the toilet, won't make herself anything to eat and just stays led in bed. She has always been like this but slowly getting worse. The constant moaning and turning on the water works, being rude, saying she's ill and refusing to join in. It's like she's scared of enjoying herself.
We are off on holiday in a week's time and I'm dreading it, she ruins every holiday by refusing to do anything and just constantly moaning. She's unhappy 90% of the time. I try very hard to please her, I have offered to take her to friends houses, have told her she can have friends over but she won't even ask them (she has 3 or 4 close friends), I ask her what she wants to do and she says "stay in bed".
She goes to her dad's once a week where she does nothing other than sit around and go out to eat (her dad's not a very active person).
Dd1 has Aspergers and I know some things are harder for her but she's become so grumpy and unhappy, I worry about her mental and physical health. She rarely sees sunlight, hardly exersise and is horizontal most of the day.
I don't know what to do to make things better, I try and talk to her and she just argues or cries.