DD new boyfriend!

[sayhelloto]

My DD is 16, just finished her GCSEs, worked really hard and now having a chilled summer meeting up with mates etc.

Now the bad news : she has just started ‘dating’ this lad in her year who was really badly behaved at school! I have heard all sorts of things from her (!) and other parents in the past about him constantly being in trouble and involved in big incidences/dramas. He has always been in her friendship group so she used to tell me all the tales of his exploits!

Now she says she has got to know him really well and he’s a really nice guy and has matured but was just an idiot at school and now wants to come back for sixth form and change his ways.

He came round for dinner the other night and was incredibly charming... but I’m really doubtful! I’m just seriously concerned about her dating him because I have heard so many negative things about him, also she used to say how he dated girls all the time... now she is one of them!

Not sure if I should properly express my concerns to her or let it play out? I’m really worried about her getting hurt! AIBU?

If you do express your concerns do you really think it will make any difference?

Not sure, we are pretty close so I think she would take it in, but obviously don’t want to ruin our relationship by going against Her. Just really concerned!

I can totally understand you being concerned but in my experience, which I admit is very limited, warning a teenager off a boy will have the totally opposite affect.

I just kept checking her boundaries. Wasn't sure there was much else I could do. When she went out with him a second time she was slow to come clean. Eventually she got bored of him and chucked him. So he started a million vile rumors. Teen love.

I do agree. Thank you.
One of my main worries is I get the impression he lost his virginity young and has slept with lots of girls. I know DD hasn’t and worried he will expect it, and then end up messing her around :(

You can’t stop her having sex OP, even if you think it’s a really bad idea. Just make sure she has condoms and knows how to use them and that’s shes aware of what STIs she coukd catch and the long term affects they coukd bring and be there with the tissues if the relationship does end.