I dont honestly know what a normal sibling relationship is like. I grew up with older siblings who had moved out and married before I was 10, so I grew up like an only child. Therefor I sort of imagine a sibling close in age of the same gender would be a friend, or at least someone to argue with. But ds1 hardly talks to ds2, I mean hardly talks. They are 20 and 17, not babies. They have sport in common, went to same school etc. But they hardly talk. No big falling out. Different personalities but nothing I'd say major. I know ds2 would like to be closer, have more of a relationship, hes mentioned it to me a few times over the years. But ds1 hardly notices him, hardly communicates. TBH it absolutely kills me. I have older siblings who utterly ignore me, they live abroad, me and my family may was well not exist to them. And I feel this is how ds1 treats ds2. TBH ds1 isnt great at communicating to us, mostly conversations are instigated by me or dh. We accept ds1 just isnt a chatter and keeps very much to himself. But his brother would like a brother who even talks to him once a day even. Its that bad.
I've tried to discuss it with ds1 but he looks at me blankly. But at 20 hes too bloody old to be hurting his brothers feelings and not be told.
please can anyone advise me what to say, or if I should say something at all?
I dont know what to do for the best.