Is your DC liked but not enough for friends to make an effort?

[MeghanMarbles]

I have a lovely, gregarious and very resilient DD aged 13. However, she's getting a bit down about always being the one to arrange to meet up with friends and increasingly having them cancel or already have plans with a mutual friend/s that they don't invite her to join in.

Then she sees photos of them on Snapchat/Instagram having fun together.

Anyone else's teens have this problem?

This is a common problem. In the past it didn't matter so much as there wasn't social media to rub it in your face. I would encourage activities outside of school, if she has interests then book her onto courses or clubs, do family activities together - basically let her see that there is more to life than just school and people from school. Another option is to have a quiet word with school and see if they can manipulate seating arrangements to seat her with different but nice kids. I hope things improve

The other friends that already have plans won’t be doing it to be mean. They just don’t think about extending an invite. Nor do they think about how a post on social media may feel exclusive. Even at 13. lol you can do is support her to be inclusive. We all need to teach our DDs this as they just don’t think of it. If she’s called Sam but Sam has planned to go out with Zoe There’s no reason why your DD can’t suggest that Sam bring along Zoe too.

DD is the same and I was at this age too. Didn't help that my friend spent all summer with her familly in their country.
But we survived!!!
Some people get on better than others, she just hasn't met the right friends yet, but needs people to hang round with at school.... hard lesson to learn