Could you please help making a list of chores for my teen and pre-teen

[Gibraltarlady]

One is 14 and the other one is 11. They don’t do much to help around here. I have just had an argument with my eldest : he refused to wash the dishes,it’s our fault we don’t have a dishwasher (there is no space for one). What does your teen do at home ? Thank you

Loading/unloading washing machine
Cooking meals
Washing up
Making tea
Mowing the lawn
Vacuuming

But, they’ve always done things like this, I think it would be harder to get them to if it was new to them.

15yo: washing up + stacking & unstacking dishwasher. Also vacuuming whole house and emptying all bins once a week.

14yo dd is supposed to do the following on the week.
Load unload dishwasher (only just got dishwasher so before this “washed” the dishes
Take recycling and rubbish out to main bins
During holidays I add a few more such as
Hoovering
Dusting
Cleaning bathroom
And of course her bedroom.

No dishwasher here either!

Kids wash dishes one night a week each.

Jobs that rotate weekly between them:
Setting table and sweeping front porch
Putting clean dishes away
Folding washing and putting away

Once they turn 13 they cook dinner once a fortnight

On weekends we work together to clean common areas so tidying, dusting vacuuming ( I do bathroom and most of kitchen)

They each walk the dog twice a week

Just doing her bedroom and dishwasher is enough she will get all the chores when she is older let her enjoy life while she is young .

Oh good thread! Watching with interest!
Mine (same ages) are asked to:
Load and unload the dishwasher
Walk the dog after school (short walk) and longer walk on Saturday morning
Change their own bedding on wàsh days Hoover occasionally
Put their washed / ironed clothes away
Sometimes make me and DH cups of tea...

A chore a day, they can either do something helpful spontaneously (has never happened yet) or jump to it whatever I ask them to do (the jobs could get grottier the more annoying they are, luckily they are not).

I have a huge bugbear that dh never asks them to do chores. I have told him repeatedly that this makes me feel they are learning that I am solely responsible for parenting and housework.

Mine are similar ages, both boys. They tend to do the following, when asked (they willingly help but they don't seem to see things need doing!):
Sort dirty clothes from wash bin and bring to washing machine
Hoover
Put own clothes away
Take out recycling
Bins out
Empty dishwasher
They always make their own breakfast and snacks

Mine are 10/11
They have been cooking meals for the family since 8/9.(spaghetti Bol, stir fry, fajita, lasagne etc) with supervision.

They tidy, dust and hoover their own rooms and clean their bathroom sink once a week.

Feed the pets everyday and clean the rabbits once a week.
Make their own packed lunch
Stack and unstack dishwasher when asked

Microwave the veg if they haven’t cooked.

I strongly suggest teaching them to use a potato peeler and a knife to chop veg.

At 14 they are fully capable of doing all the chores an adult does. Scouts and guides will be cooking on fires and cleaning toilets etc.

I think the attitude needs addressing more than what they are capable of. If they can’t see why they should do their fair share then that needs talking about ASAP.

My girls can iron but they think that’s a mans job as they have never seen me do it.

Washing the cars

Sorting and putting washing on (started with minging PE kits)

Use tumble dryer/ peg out.

Clean the shoes (bung stinky trainers through wash)

Vacuum

Rinse out bath/ shower

Strip and make beds.

Alternate (2 DC) laying table and clearing table after dinner
Make own packed lunch
make (or at least prep) dinner one day a week
keep own room tidy
Strip and make own bed
Iron anything they want ironing that is not school uniform
Pitch in when we do a general house clean (so might be hoovering, floor mopping, bathroom cleaning)
Help with gardening

Mine (DD13 DS12) alternate between the following to earn their pocket money on a Saturday morning:

One child irons all of the family's shirts for the week.

Other child hoovers through the house, empties all bins and cleans bathroom.

These take 30-45 mins usually. Also they:

• Hand wash/dry Sunday Dinner pots and pans and load Sunday dinner crockery into dishwasher.
• Put own washing away after every wash
• tidy living room / hall / shoes when asked
• will also wash car or mow lawn for extra money.

Jobs started when pocket money did, which was Year 6.

My seven year old puts his own clothes away, helps load/unload the dishwasher, sometimes hoovers, helps mow the lawn with close supervision.

My 16yr old DS empties the dishwasher and lays and clears the table daily, hoovers a couple of times a week, hangs washing on the line a couple of times a week, changes his own sheets, puts his laundry away and keeps his room tidy. He also bakes and cooks occasionally when he feels like it. When his dad’s away with work he will put the rubbish out for me. Will mow the lawn and wash the cars for money! He also helps with diy which he enjoys. It sounds a lot but is never more than 15/20 minutes a day usually.

Dishwashing.
Laundry.
Hoovering.
Cooking meals.
Cleaning kitchen down.
Sweeping floors.
Mopping floors.
Polishing.
Tidy rooms.
Clean bathrooms.

On a rota for ages 16, 15, 12, 11.

I have a chore jar, each night my DD's (13 & 11) pick a ticket out of the jar, which have the following jobs on them:
Make beds
Load/unload dishwasher
Wipe kitchen sides down
Wipe utility room sides down
Bring dirty washing down from baskets
Fold and put away clean washing
Polish bedrooms
Hoover bedrooms
Take out rubbish
Iron 5 x items (13 year old only)

This is our first week, so I can't say whether it's successful yet, but I'm hoping just taking responsibility for one thing each night will break them in gently, and get them off their phones and out of their rooms for 10 mins.....